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writes:i have a really confusing problem. I've just started dating this guy that I've been practically in love with for a year. He's sweet and charming and nice and handsome and I'm sure that I've never felt anything like this before. He's a true gentlemen to me. He makes me feel like i'm the most amazing person in the world. I feel like i'm floating when we hold hands, and whenever he's mad, or sad, or anything that's not happy, i feel horrible. We've known each other for about a year and a half, and we've been friends ever since I've first met him, so we're not strangers. It's just that I've liked this guy for a little over a year now, and he just suddenly started liking me out of the blue. I know for sure he's never liked me before that. He said it himself once (to my face. it hurt soo much). So why now?? Is he settling for me, or does he seriously like me?? I know I haven't given a lot of information to work with here, but when i start i can go on forever. Please just try to work with what you have. I seriously need to know, because I don't want to get my heart broken if he finds someone better. I want him to be happy with whoever he ends up with, even if it's not me, but I know that I'll be more than devastated if he ends it. I'm looking for any help i can get (i've asked my magic 8 ball about this more than 7 times, i promise you that). Again, do you think he's settling for me, or he truly likes me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): You are very lucky that you are in love and that the person you love loves you back. Thats about it - why try to read into things that arent there. Give this relationship all youve got, it sounds like he is. If it doesnt work out then thats fate but dont let it be because your being neurotic and silly. Literally lie back and enjoy it!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Whenever we fall in love, we are taking the risk of having our heart broken at some point. But what are the alternatives? We can never get envolved and never have a broken heart...but I think that would be very sad! Life is all about taking risks!
As far as him just beginning to take notice of you and having feelings for you...sometimes, people grow on us. And all of a sudden we realize that the person we love is right in front of us! Stop giving yourself negative messages such as "He is settling for me" Tell yourself that you are worthy of his love, and deserve happiness! We can't fortell the future, but we can live in the moment and hope it lasts. There will always be ups and downs in life, as well as in relationships. It's a matter of how we handle those downs that matters. Honesty, communication and trust are my three most important keys to a healthy relationship. So, start with the communication, and build on that...and if it's going to work, the honesty and trust will go along with it!
Good Luck and Treat yourself well!
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