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writes:I just started seeing a guy a week or so ago. We used to be friends a few years ago when I was dating one of his aquantances. For those of you that are interested in the zodiac, I am a Pisces, and he is a Gemini.We spend almost everyday together and we talk on the phone often when we aren't together. He works practically around the clock. My question I suppose is...IS THIS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE?! I'm 21, have had a very rough life, and it's vrey difficult for me to trust ANYONE...especially most guys. He tells me I am pretty and smart and that he's totally hooked on me. I feel exactly the same way, but like I said...It's hard to believe!He is encouraging me to better myself and my life, and he's just about everything I could ever ask for. The thing that makes me nervous, is that he used to cheat all the time when he was younger. I want to believe he is changed and could really be "the one"...but it's hard to ignore such a shady past! I personally have never cheated. He has confessed several other secrets from his past that make me nervous, for example, drug use and a short stint in jail.He seems totally reformed now, but I need the un-tainted opinions of others. Is he really my Knight in Shining Armor, or just some hoax? I really like him and we seem to be falling for each other...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat was excellent! Exactly what I needed to hear! I'm eager to hear more opinions...so GUSH AWAY!
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I wonder why you mention your signs of the Zodiac? Because if you believe in astrology, you'll already know the answer: attracted to each other like moths to a flame, and about as much chance of the relationship surviving as those two moths in a blazing inferno.
However, although astrological beliefs are a fascinating subject, I'm not inclined to accept that positions or movements of stars and planets at the time of our birth (or, for that matter, at the time of our conception) have the slightest relevance to what we do thereafter. In fact, the only heavenly bodies that really hold my interest are distinctly human and decidedly male.
That aside, let's look at your relationship with this man without the stars in our eyes:
Why should he be a hoax? His past isn't perfect, but if he was still that person who had loads of relationships when he was younger, used drugs (what sort of drugs?) and had a short stint in jail (what for?), would he have told you about it if he wasn't serious about you? Few people are perfect. Even fewer have always been perfect.
Of course you have to be careful. That goes for anyone you get close to. Of course you need to get to know him better, much better, before you make any decisions that will be difficult to correct later. But if you don't make that effort, cautiously, then you'll never know for sure.
Don't let suspicion cloud your judgement, but equally be alert. Don't let your past, rough as it may have been and difficult as you find it to trust anyone, influence what you see in him one way or the other.
Let him be your Knight in Shining Armour for as long as he behaves like one, just don't let him carry you away to his dark castle until you are absolutely sure that armour hasn't any chinks in it, and that there isn't a dark, untrustworthy heart beating within the shiny exterior.
Good luck.
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