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writes:I have history with a guy I really like. He also expressed an interest in me and his attraction to me. But we didn't act on it out of respect for the fact I was married. We kept in touch via the email and online chatting occasionally but it was strictly friendly. I eventually told him I moved out from my husband but I didn't dwell on the topic because I didn't want him to think it had anything to do with him; it didn't.But now I feel open to see if the guy and I can get to know each other better. But, I'm very nervous about it and I'm not sure how he feels at this point. I haven't had the opportunity to tell him I'm divorcing, but he's clear that I am at least separated and have been for a while. Anyway, I finally decided to give him a call. When I did he seemed pleased to hear from me because he said "I'm glad you called." The conversation was short because he wasn't at home and he said he would try to call me later. I knew he'd be busy because he was preparing to go out of the country today. Well, he didn't call; that was yesterday. Is this a sign he may not really be interested and was only being nice? Or does it sound like he really meant it? Do you think he might be hesitant because he doesn't know I'm divorcing yet?I know time will tell but I'm just trying to get a feel for it now.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 It's unclear exactly what he's thinking. It could be a combination of him being busy and being nervous about you still being married. I will say, though, that if he wasn't interested at all that you'd be able to sense it when talking to him. But no matter what, the ball is in his court now. How recently have you talked to him? Is there a chance he's seeing somebody else? Perhaps he's started dating, but doesn't want to tell you because he has feelings for you (but thought you were off the market). There's plenty of possibilities. I'd give him a week or so, if you don't hear from him it wouldn't hurt giving a last phone call or email saying "I've been waiting for your call" or something like that. Other than that, there's not much more you can do.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
 He's hesitant that your not officially divorced yet..No offense but when a woman is separated but not yet divorced there's that chance she could get back with her husband, and that is a red flag for men. It has to be official, because they want to be certain there's no drama.
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