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*illady55
writes:Hiya again.I am writing again as i posted a question on here a few weeks back and got some postitve replies. Me and my bf split up because he was ringing and texting a woman from work for a couple of months before i found out, they were flirty txts and he was ringing her in the early hours. She said they were just friends and that nothing would ever happen between them so me and my bf got back together as we have been together for 10 years and have 3 children together and the children were upset by it all. To cut a long story short for the first couple of weeks he has been wonderful and everything seemed good between us, 2 weeks ago he got a text off her friend askin for money off my bf for this girl at work cos she wanted to get drunk. I said he should txt back and tell her not to txt him any more but he wouldnt. He has started acting strange again and keepin his phone glued to his pocket. He has deleted pictures of me off his mobile twice and he is startin to ignore my calls when he is supposed to be doin overtime. I checked the mobile call list on the pc and her number was on and his explanation was she had txted him by accident and he had rang her to ask why she had txted him. Alot of things arent adding up but when i confronted him he tottally lost it with me and said i was driving him mad, that nothing was goin on but all of my friends said the way he is behavin is really suspicious, he even tried to say work wanted him to do a job that would mean he would be there all night, but i wasnt happy so he didnt mention it again. Please help and tell me if this is all me going mad or wether it is him. thankyou
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reader, iza1971 +, writes (22 March 2007):
You are not mad. I've been through this recently. He is 100% up to something. Whether or not he has physically cheated on you is another question but he is definately starting something. When men who cheat get confronted they turn the tables on you and blame it on your paranoia.They also seem to have no sensitivity chip and are oblivious to the fact that there are also children involved and the adverse affect this has on them. The question I always have for the other woman is why would you want to get involved with a man who is cheating and lying to his wife and children? The question I have for you is do you want to be with a man who is doing this to you and your children and making you feel this way?
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (19 March 2007):
 Honey, the fact you have written in tells me that you know hes up to no good. And you dont need me to tell you that.
What you do about it is up to you... We already know that he has a history of this behaviour, and in short appears that he cannot be trusted, or why else would he be acting this way ? The reason he blew up and got cross at you is because hes in the wrong but its easier to blame you.
Come on hun the excuses he is giving you are very lame... all the signs are there... ive been there ticked the box on cheaters and they will always always deny it and blame you.
Now what you need to establish is that if he did come clean would you be able to forgive and forget and move on or would it always be like this, you doubting him ? Him coming back, things are great then hes off on his little tricks again... He needs to change if you guys are to stand a chance and you have to front this too him. How you go about it is another matter, but I for one do not think you are nuts, he is acting odd and this needs to be resolved.
Tell him that you need to talk and that you know there is something up and that you need to get to the bottom of this for both your sakes.. he has already acted wrong in the past(this girl probably lied to you if the truth be known that nothing happend anyway) If hes so sure that hes innocent then he wouldnt have any qualms in deleting her number, or at the very least stop sneaking around, afterall you are supposed to come first here, and given the previous record he can hardly blame you for thinking the worst anyway!
Take care!
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