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writes:Myself and an old flame from high school recently began talking again, for 1 1/2 yrs now. He and I have gotten close for the last 7-8 mos, we didnt have sex until about 10 months into the relationship. He is in the Army and about to deploy to Afg. December was the best month for us. There have been a lot of obstacles for us, and we were able to spend a lot of time and emotions were high. I love yous were exchanged, a lot of feelings were exchanged. Now he is on permanent orders and has been gone training. He has been pulling back a lot. He emailed me yesterday and was mad a me bc I emailed him too much I guess. I thought I was being supportive while he was gone, I guess he deosnt need me. idk. Is he pushing me away bc he doesnt want me in his life anymore? or bc he is getting to close to me? or does it have nothing to do with me at all?? I want to be as supportive as I can, but I dont feel appreciated. I thought that I was doing something good by keeping in touch with him a lot by email. I love this man very much. I know that he loves me too. Should I wait to hear from him????????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): He could have a lot of feelings for you and decided that he needs to cool things off in case something happens to him, you are not completely shattered. Or he feels his life is too uncertain, he doesn't want you to put your life on hold waiting for something that may never be.
I had to comment because this happened with a buddy of mine about 8 years ago when he found out he has a fairly aggressive form cancer. He broke things off so the fiancee can move on (never telling her the real reason because he knew she wouldn't go otherwise). We all hung out during the last year of college (when he was still healthy) so I knew them both. She hated him for a while but she moved on. He went into depression and the disease took him after a couple of years.
All water under the bridge now but she never knew. We put her picture in his jacket pocket before they closed the casket--that was what he wanted.
Wow, not a Valentine's weekend story and I don't have a chance to tell it (at least to anyone I know as we decided that it does no good for her to know now) so it just came out when I read your post.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Could it be you need reassurance because of how the relationship was left? Are you in a committed relationship or not?
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