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*oxie74
writes:Hi all, thanks for reading this. I've been dating a guy casually since January of this year. We're not exclusive. We hang out in the same social circle. He says he doesn't want anyone to know we're dating, because I once dated someone else in the same group of friends and he doesn't people to think badly of him (there's supposedly a rule that you can't date your friends' exes, although he and my ex aren't good friends). But he also seems to really like me. Anyway, so there are times when we're out at a club with our friends, and we have to pretend like we're not seeing each other. So last night we were out at a halloween club party. He's a big flirt, which doesn't bother me most of the time. However, I looked over and saw him at the bar, kissing another girl. Then, a little while later, he and this girl came over and stood near me and my friends. He knew I was there. And they made out a few times.Now, even though he's not my "boyfriend," I was hurt and angry. I felt like it was extremely disrespectful. Any ideas why he might have done this? Things were going pretty good with us and I was thinking that we might get more serious soon. What should I do? My first reaction was that I was done with him. Should I give him a chance or is he just a player? I really liked him, we got along really well, we have good chemistry, and he's got a lot of good qualities. What should I do? I'm not that young anymore, so pickings are slim. But I also feel like I deserve more... Any opinions, advice?Thanks! Moxie
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): He's a player Moxie, move on. Totally disrespectful and immature behaviour. He's definately not worth it.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 hi.
sorry that he did that to you, but you did for some reason go into a casual relationship, did you not see the signs, he is a player OK, and he is very good at it, all the classic signs were there , would not admit you were involved with each other, flirting with a room full of woman, kissing another girl, pretending he did not now you, how did you not now he was playing you, when i read your letter the first thing i though is this guy is a player, and i have never met him.
Come on babe you must have suspected something, i do not know why you want him back after he made out in a club with another woman, several times times.
She wont be the only one, come on babe wake up, your in a dream world, hes no good for you, he will not stop this game because he enjoys it to much, as many woman he can have in a week, do you really think he will give all that up, NO WAY.
You need to get over this very quickly, and start to get your life back together,you do not want a trashy guy like that, if he has a quit night, not much sex then he will be straight round to your door to cut his losses, what kind of life will that be for you, his spare on the side in case all of the other woman let him down.
You are better off without him, surely you value your life more than this, at the age you are, you are in the prime of your woman hood, the most beautiful woman you could ever be, and some one out there will loose out, because you keep going out with these no good, one time jerks, i do not know you but if i ever met, you i bet i would think she is a beautiful woman with a good heart, do not let this type of person, break your heart, you are still very young, and deserve a lot better for yourself.
i wish you well, go out and find that good guy, good luck.
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