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writes:I have now become friends with my ex. We havent talked in a few years but i have never fell out of love with him. I initiated contact with him just recently because I want him back. i didnt expect him to contact me back but he did and now were friends again. He came over my house a few times but he never acted like he was interested in me and he never called. I never tried to be too pushy with him. Just a few days ago he called me out of the blue and wanted to hang out. I dont quite know what to make of this. Does he still have feelings for me and playing hard to get? or does he just want to be friends?
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reader, Zim  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 It is possible that he just wants to be friends, but then again, it is also plausible that he is realising he likes you again. Not much of an answer but here are some things to look out for.
His body language. If he looks at you fairly often and makes a lot of eye contact this is a sign of attraction. If he seems to hold himself upright in your presence and subconsciously copies how you move this is also a sign.
If these things are present then there is a high possibility that he's interested. At the moment, I would say go and hang out with him. It is still unsure territory, he has not done anything so far that would indicate an interest in a relationship again but that does not mean it won't happen.
However, the fact that he has called you out of the blue to see you indicates to me a willingness to see you more often. It might be a simple case of him relaising how much he has missed you and wants to see you more. In which case, see him as often as possible so that you can both get to know each other again. I've heard it said and I know through experience that the more time you spend with a person of the opposite sex, the more attracted you get to them, mainly because you feel comfortable around them and that is an essential part of a relationship.
In summary, I think that what you have been doing so far is great. Carry on taking it slow. Use your body language to give him an idea of your attraction to him like i've said above. If he does like you, you will see a response.
Good luck and let us know how it goes!
ZIM
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