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anonymous
writes:I just got in a new relationship and my boyfriend doesnt act like a boyfriend at all. Whenever he comes to my house hes always on my laptop which i understand since he doesnt have a computer at his house, and he likes to check his email and so fourth. But when he starts playing computer games, and usuing my cellphone to text his buddies, and taking my ipod all the time. It makes me wonder.. is he with me because he likes me? or because he likes my stuff. Also, if were around one of his best friends he will ignore me completly. Like tonight we were at the coffee shop and when me and my friend were leaving he didnt even stop me to say goodbye, he just, watched us leave. And he never listens to me, if hes talking about himself, or his life, ill listen and respond. But, if it comes to talking about me he just doesnt care. I told him all this, and i told him it bothers me and he just said "yeah, yeah. yeah" and i asked him "well, do you want to break up?" and he said "no" and i said,"well, what do you want to do?" and he was like "i duno, work it out.." I really like him but i dont know how much of this i can take, what should i do?
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reader, isabella1987  +, writes (24 October 2009):
Yeah! you should break up with him. He don't care about you at all. If you don't want to abuse your feeling anymore you should go your way right now.Before everything get worse. If you take more time, it's only you gonna get hurt.He won't be feel anything, cause he don't care about you at all.You better leave him now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): He is using you for your stuff.
Ive never just gone to my gfs houses and played with all their toys (usuall Im busy playing with them)
Dump him and get a real guy, you will notice the difference
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): I don't think a guy would hang around someone he didn't like just to use his or her stuff, but at that same time ignoring you is a really bad trait. You can spend your life chasing him like crazy or you can let him go. The only way a person will change is if they want to change and judging by his response I don't think it's going to happen.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 October 2009):
 Guys can be pretty clumsy sometimes, and when they are in their teens, they're still learning about how to be in a relationship. He might still be embarrassed to be vocal about having a girlfriend in public and that's why he didn't say anything.
Or he could be with you because you have good electronics! I think a way to find out is to not have those devices available when he comes over. Tell him the computer needs a new motherboard, that the iPod is on the fritz and that your parents have severely restricted your use of your cell phone. A few visits with this being the case will let you know if he does enjoy your company.
As far as talking about himself all the time, well, he is definitely young on that score. He may grow out of it. I'll tell you a secret about men. They don't like a whole lot of chit chat, generally. There are exceptions of course, but too much talking about feelings can be off-putting to a guy. Just tell him you'd like to have a nice coversation, then make sure you have yourself a good list of things to talk about.
Good luck to you as you try to figure him out!
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (24 October 2009):
 "I just got in a new relationship and my boyfriend doesnt act like a boyfriend at all."
"I told him all this, and i told him it bothers me and he just said "yeah, yeah. yeah"
I only have one option for you in this case. Break-up with him.
He does not care for you.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): Hey sorry but thats not how men act when they are smitten for their new gf, I would just tell him its not going to work out and stop seeing him, he won't change unless something happens. He sounds selfish and immature. My advice to girls and women has always been, does he adore cherish and love you, make you feel special is so happy to be with you, smiles takes care of you???? If not hes a total bore with problems you don't need. His parents did not do a good job with him. Move on chick. Does he give you anything?? Oh PS - Never Ever live with a man and help him pay his mortgage if hes never going to marry you... Get out move on buy your own house.
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