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writes:Hi everyone, im stuck in a bit of an awkward situation and i dont know what to do so I wondered if anyone had any advice? Basically I am seeing a guy at the moment, but its very casual, we've only been dating a month or so, so we havent told anyone about it yet. But the thing is before me he had a bit of a 'thing' with my friend and i feel a bit awkward about it. All that happened was they made out once, he asked her out, and she said no. That was all about 4 months ago now and as far as I know her feelings about him havent changed so there's no problem there. He never talks about her, so again as far as I know he no longer has any interest in her. However recently i've become completely fixated on the fact that he's only dating me cause he couldnt have my friend so he thought he'd go for the next best thing. Im a worrier anyway and once i get an idea in my head i cant get it out, and Im really worried my friend will change her mind, ask him out, and he'll dump me straight away for her, which will just be mortifying and upsetting. Do you think im just being paranoid or should I just end the relationship now? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2013): You're just being paranoid. That's the problem with dating a friend's ex soon after a break up, or casual fling. You couldn't wait to be sure he was totally over her, you jumped at the earliest opportunity to get him for yourself.
So, here we are!
I understand how you feel; but unless he shows interest in her, don't create things in you mind about it. She already said "no." He took no for an answer. She has no problem with you seeing him. So are you now feeling guilty?
So what, if he did take you as the consolation prize? He's a "second-hand boyfriend" to begin with. He made a better choice. Don't you think?
It'll be okay. He's with you now and that's all that matters.
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