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writes: i have a man who tells me he's not into sexual things for instance, like trying new things with food, me dancing for him, or doing all the freaky things I would love, to please him. Is it because he's not sexually attracted to me? help, what am i to do or what can i do about it Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): He sounds as though he doesn't like adventure. He prefers vanilla when you want chocolate. You like it spicy and he likes it plain. Sounds like you are with the wrong guy. Sounds like you will be very bored. Then again if you like his company and financial wherewithal you are willing to overlook these minor/major inconveniences.I would sit him down and ask him if he is sexually attracted to you as it is odd that a male will pass up your kinkiness and playing. Is he 100% heterosexual?
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (8 August 2009):
I don't think it is you personally, I think he is probably shy about trying freaky stuff even with you and he would rather not do it, sometimes people back off when they don't know how they may react. Then again he may just not like having sex like that maybe acts like you described cheapens it for him. If I were you I would try to ease him into start off doing little stuff that he may not even notice. If things do not change either you will have to accept that he is a stiff fish or you will have to do other things to satisfy your sexual needs. See its the same for most females they will say they don't like something because they are worried what there partner will think and then they try something and they like it, then they are cool with it. Give him sometime and ease him into the game. I have a feeling if you have patients and confidence he will warm up to what you want to do. Hell just walk around naked you don't have to dance I bet that will get his attention.
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