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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 7 months now. Before we started dating I was a virginand he tells me that he has loved me since the first time he laid eyes on me four years ago. Ever since then we were just friends and he always would ask me when i was going to let him have sex with me(my boyfriend has a thing for virgins but, me in particular)i'd joke and say no but i always had the feeling he would be the one to take it. Well 3 weeks into our relationship he did and we've been having sex ever since. He have sex atleast once everyday (with the exception of my time of the month). We both are very sexual people and like the attention from each other but, i'm afraid that he is only into having sex with me so he can get off and not making love to me like when we first started having sex. Now we may have sex every day but, i do give him oral quite often. I gag alot but I still do it anyways because I want to please him and keep him interested. Lately my boyfriend keeps asking me if i will mess around with another girl or if he can have anal sex with me. I don't feel comfortable doing either. The thought of messing around with another girl makes me very uncomfortable for the simple fact that i don't see girls like that and anal hurts. I only know because he has "hit" the wrong hole once or twice before and it caused me real pain and lost of interest in the sex we were having. Just this morning he told me that he was losing interest in having sex with me or me giving him oral. It just isn't enough for him. His last girlfriend let him cheat on her because he again, lost interest so she wanted to keep him happy and let him mess around with other girls. I believe he is like this because he has been having sex since he was 15 and has had over 20 some girlfriends (again 99% of them being virgins) most of which he was only with because they were pretty and just wanted to take their virginity and have sex with them for a bit and then leave. Hense the large number. I know he like virgins because of the tightness of the vagina before you lose your virginity. He always has said he likes it when it's tight. We have had sex a few different ways and no matter what he still will not let go of me messing around with another girl or anal. I don't know what to do anymore. I love him to death and i know he loves me just as much right back but, I'm worried that he might cheat on me with another girl because he is bored with me. I know he texts other girls and that he asks them to send him pictures of them topless and such. I've seen the pictures and texts first hand then when I confront him about it he doesn't see the wrong in what he did. He just yells at me for digging. He has a history of cheating and i know there are girls that hate me and are jealous because I am with him. In school he was the shiny toy that every girl wanted so, can you blame me? I just need to know if there is something i can do to keep him interested in having sex with me and the oral I give him aka to stop asking me to mess around with another girl or let him have anal sex with me.Another reason i'm so worried is because i know he losing interest and i'm leaving for five days to go to my cabin with my family. I will be unable to communicate with him all the time and he will not be able to have sex for 5 days. Just worried that he going to cheat while i'm gone. Even if i could talk to him he is a habitual liar and is very good in making you believe the lie he is telling you.So I hope you can help and understand my conserns.This really means a lot to me.Thanks :)
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reader, somethingannonymous  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 there are men on this planet who don't get bored of sex with their partner and who enjoy making love to them, and who simply don't cheat - because they only have eyes for you. go find one of them. they're looking for a girl as loyal as you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): You need to decide if you're putting more into this relationship than you are getting out of it. Him receiving those pictures of other girls--walk away from this situation, it's time to end the relationship.
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reader, Inlovewithhim1224 +, writes (11 July 2009):
 he doesn't care how much have sex and he just recently started losing interest in sex. (like a month or two)
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (11 July 2009):
 This dude is a loser. A guy who lies and gets bored with sex so fast is not long term boyfriend material. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing, and if he dumps you or cheats on you, count yourself lucky you got out early. He is already tripping and testing you with the sexting. Why stay and hurt yourself, when you know full well what's going to happen? So what if girls are jealous? Once they find out what kind of guy he is they won't be jealous any more!
Leave and find yourself a better man, one who is honest and not a bed hopper. You deserve better.
Good luck.
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reader, Ash.D +, writes (11 July 2009):
 well girl it's time to say good bye if he really loved you he wouldn't care how much yall had sex or if you said no things like anal and having a threesome if he really loved you he would just want to hold you every once and a while and maybe i dont know skip out on sex for a night because it's not everything in a relationship so he doesnt love you he loves what you give him he's using your body and that's not right. So it's time for good bye
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