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writes:My boyfriend had just split up with his wife when i met him. We had a great relationship, he moved in with me but several months later he devastated me by going back to his wife. Shortly after returning he was back in touch telling me he had made a mistake. I said i couldn't take anymore but he swore that it was over between them so i let him move back in with me. A few weeks ago he dropped another bombshell he was leaving me within a fortnight though he continued to cuddle up to me each night during that time giving me mixed messages and false hope. I tried to talk him around but he said he was still leaving but it was difficult as he still loved me, he said he was going to his sisters but i had my doubts. I couldn't understand him but i found out the night he left that he had gone back to his wife again and he hadn't even the decency to tell me the truth! I know i should just wash my hands of him but im so shocked and upset. He seems to have been living a double life he only went out once a week but it was this day he has obviously been seeing her . Why has he been leading this double life? I thought he loved me infact i'm convinced he did and still does but i can't deal with all the lies. I can't even speak to him to make some sense of it all.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (30 November 2008):
 Unfortunately, he hadnt been finished with his wife for long when you took him on board. Husbands and wives need a cooling off period when they split up after being together for years. This is where rebounds happen, they go to people on the rebound because of their hurt pride. Then when theyve got that out of their system they start to grieve for what theyve lost and try and get it back. If he comes back to you, be cautious. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes so it seems. He was living with me 11 months before he left the second time. I never thought i was the exception i just thought he would know his own mind and for 11 months it appeared he did.
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