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writes:me and my ex were together for a year before we split up and i moved back home to the other side of the country. soon after the split we got back together LD because neither of us could afford to move close to the other. our problems got worse when we were LD. whereas before he was clingy and wanted to spend 24/7 with me he went to the opposite end of the spectrum. he ignored a lot of my calls, was talking a lot to his ex, and was just ignoring me because he finally found friends. however, every time his friends would ignore him and he was again lonely and depressed he would go right back to being clingy calling me all the time saying he loves me and was sorry for being a jerk. eventually we broke up again because he just didnt think it was going to work. he went off to boot camp a few months ago, he called me before he left and it sounded like he was just as disinterested in furthering us. so while he was gone (and we couldnt have communication) i started getting used to the fact that we wouldnt be together, that we were over. i started seeing other people and trying to recover from our mess of a relationship. then a couple of weeks ago i got some letters from him that he sent from boot camp. he said he loved me and understod why i left, that he was sorry for the things hed done to hurt me and that i was the only one he ever wanted to be with. He said these things in a different way then he'd ever said them, the letters were really sincere. i was touched and wrote him back saying how much i loved him and how i was sorry and all of that. i was all ready to open my heart to him again. however when i started thinking about it...hes been alone in boot camp surrounded by all guys away from home for 9 weeks. hes lonely again. is this why he misses me? sometimes i wonder if he really ever did love me or if he just didnt want to be alone. do you guys think that he's only saying these things because he has no one else? will he go back to ignoring me once he has a life again? is this healthy? i am so confused right now. i wish i wouldnt have fallen inlove so young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): Are you are you really in love? or are You too being clingy towards your boyfriend or the relationship? He broke it off with you and he might be trying to cling on to you because, as you cited...he is lonely.
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