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writes:There is a guy who is in my university clique. The group of us always went for short holiday trips during our school holidays and celebrates each another birthdays occasionally. And there is on guy by the name of "I" who has been very sweet and caring towards me during all the short trips. And recently, on my birthday, my uni friends tease him about me and made us take a photo together. He seems to enjoy the fun too but I am not sure if he is interested in me.Anyway, his room mate in hostel is my ex, who had betrayed me before but "I" din know about my this relationship with my ex. It is a complicated feeling for me as I think that "T" is really a nice catch but becoz his roomie is my ex I don't want to complicate things by liking "I".In addition, I have no idea if "I " is interested in me anot as we only meet up in cliques and we don't even add each another on msn and will get to see one another only during our occasional casual clique dinner sessions and holiday trips.Nevertheless, he is the only guy who stayed with me until 5am next morning on birthday. I am confused if I should express more feelings to him as I am unsure by how i feel towards him.Sorry I know its very complicated but whenever I think of a possibility with "I", I will inevitably thought of the hurt his roomie (also my ex) had inflicted onto me. Should I move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe hasn't contacted me since then I guess maybe he is just having fun then. Well I am too sensitive I guess
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey really thanks for your advise. There is a chance that i will get hurt again anyway since he did not approach me since then I guess I should just concentrate on my on coming examinations. =)
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reader, Ewan Nicholson  +, writes (11 November 2009):
 Well to start your ex and “I” are two different people. So you shouldn’t judge one situation based on an other. The fear of possibly being rejected or hurt again is naturally and maybe the proximity of the two situations makes it more apparent but it is something you will have to face whoever you get involved with next. From what your saying it does sound like he likes you. So approach it like any situation, be honest with what you want, take time to get to know him and be aware that there always risk and you can take more educated risk from spending quality time with a person. Also don’t assume he just think you like him. Your fear could be interpreted as aloofness or coolness, so be aware of that. The truth is al likelihood you will probaly will get hurt again, so will I, so will most of us. Be aware that each time you will get stronger, clearer and more aware of who you are and what you want .Approach it from position of confidence not fear and I am sure the right way forward will reveal itself. Good luckEwan Nicholson
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