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writes:I get so confused over this guy, I have no idea what he want from me. And im sorry that this is a long question.I met this guy 4 weeks ago at a club, and my best friend ended up with his friend so we just followed them home since they lived togheter,and me and my "guy" just sat up talking, no sex. After that he contacted me on sms, and we started talking daily, on msn and text messages. He tried over and over again to meet me again, but im a shy person since ive been hurt quite allot before and I have been "used". Days passed and on saturday, he ditched his friends to meet me,we had both been drinking but instead of going right to making out he just hugged me and held his arms around me. That made me confused, and so I had to go home and he followed me to my bus, and he asked why I would not meet him and I told him I was afraid. And he said :"... do you think that I would send you 1000 textmessages to sleep with you? From day one I have been interested in meeting you, you like the same things I do. I know you have been used, I promise you not to hurt you, and I keep my promises. You are a beautiful girl" I met him on monday and things went quite well, in the beginning it was awkward. It took time before he made a move to hug me, and he just sat there holding my hand. And after a while he and I started kissing, but its not like we start making out like crazy. We lay side by side, he is holding his arm around me,petting my hair,kissing my forhead, holding my hand. When he kisses me, he holds my face and is laying sooo close to me haha.And I met him again yesterday and the same happened, just the kissing went a bit crazy, and he told me "Its hard to keep my promises but I will keep it" and im so confused now.I have never met a guy like him, he makes me feel safe and he makes me happy. But I do now understand his feelings, is he just after sex or something else?
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reader, my2cents  +, writes (1 August 2012):
Believe it or not, there actually are nice guys out there, which want love and romance before sex. It sounds like he enjoys your company and is happy with you as a person, not necessarily your body first. If he makes you happy and you have good conversations and laughs, play it the way you want and enjoy his company also. Maybe even throw in a "I actually thought you were like other guys wanting one thing" and laugh after it to view his reaction. The last thing you want to do is throw away a nice guy based on society judgements and cliche's. You never know, he could be the one
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (1 August 2012):
 This guy clearly likes you, and he makes you feel safe and happy then that's a good thing, I can tell you that he does want sex with you, but there's nothing wrong with that, he likes you,he fancies you, of course he wants sex, but he's not pressuring you at all, just relax a bit, not every guy is sex crazed player, carry on the way you are and when your ready have sex, give this guy a chance
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (1 August 2012):
 I doubt that he's after sex, since he's made no early moves to try and get in your pants. I say follow your gut instincts, but from what you've shown us here, he sounds like a nice guy that is worthy of trusting, and dating.
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