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writes: Hi, this might sound like a trivial question, but I thought I'd just ask for some opinions anyway. And yes, it's about online/long distance things, which I know tends to get a lot of criticism.I have been in contact with a guy for about a year and a half, we have never met, it is all online and occasionally text. We had a lot of plans to meet, and although we had never met, we developed feelings and decided to be in a LDR relationship. We met on MySpace, and now keep in touch on Facebook. We had both changed our status to in a relationship, and on MySpace he claimed he was looking for friendship and networking only.It seems unlikely that we will ever meet, and the whole long distance/online thing is not working for me, so a while ago we decided to be just friends. We changed our status back to single, and on FB we are still looking for just friendship. Even though we are single though, he claims that he loves me a lot, and wants a future with me. He says he wants no one else. He actually seems rather dependent on me.However, I am no longer on MySpace, and when I recently saw his profile on there, I noticed he has changed his "looking for" to dating and serious relationships, as well as friendship and networking. He does not know that I know, as I am no longer on MySpace.So this may sound like a stupid question, and the answer may be obvious, but...opinions please? My interpretation of this is to assume that he wants to be with me...unless someone better comes along. Like, he is making do with me, while still on the look out for someone else. Am I right here? And if so, why does he claim to be so in love with me? Thanks in advance for any input on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both very much for your responses, you have both pretty much mirrored my own thoughts on the situation. It is nice to get other opinions, and I am definitely going to view this as just an online friendship, and nothing more. To be honest, my feelings are rapidly disappearing anyway, even though for ages now it has been entirely possible for us to meet, a year and a half later there is still nothing. He has excuse after excuse as to why it cannot happen. Like you said anonymous, if he really loved me that much, he would be eager for us to meet. I'm tired of waiting and am going to start moving on. Thank you both again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Many people say love, when what they really mean is, they like someone. I think he likes you a lot but thats not real, honest to goodness love. If it were, he would be at your door. Not busy online with who knows how many others, looking for a serious relationship. He would want his serious relationsip to be with you and he would move heaven and earth to make that happen. That would show real love and commitment to you. So i think he means he likes you. And as such, when he meets someone for real, expect him to go quiet!
For now, just enjoy his online company but view it as no more than a temporary meeting of minds, between two people who like each other.
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