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writes:Ok, so I have this guy friend that I've known for more than a few months now. When we first met I was starting a new relationship.. so, he would ask me out and I would answer jokingly like.. yeah, yeah soon. But out of respect for my current bf I just didn't let it get to that point. Well my bf and I broke-up and he was there to offer some support thru the tough times. Any how, he asked me out on a date that same night of the break-up. His exact words were 'Well now that you don't have a bf I can officially ask you out on a date.' I was like sure!Well we went out. My mind was somewhere else.. yeah thinking about my ex. I still had fun.. but it was weird. I guess just too soon. I went home that night thinking.. I blew it and he'll never ask me out again. A few days passed and he asks me out again.. He seems interested.. text me every other day and calls just to say 'Hi' I've noticed we get along just great.. But he says, 'Buddy' every now and then.. So I guess the question is.. Is he interested in me as a girl or just someone to hangout with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): Perhaps he says "buddy" just to protect himself from being rejected. The same reason why he asks you out jokingly - so that his ego isn't hurt if you say no. He's also aware that you're recently out of a relationship and probably doesn't want to be the rebound guy.
I think your best bet is to take things slowly and see how things develop. Go on some more dates, if it gets to a couple of months and you're still interested in him but he hasn't made a move yet, it might be worth laying your cards on the table and asking him whether he wants anything more.
Also pay attention to body language when you're together. Does he put his arm around you? Have you had the playful pokes/tickles/nudges? Any other physical contact? eg. touching your arm/knee while talking? or any other signs of flirting?
These are all positive signs.
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