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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys, basically I am not sure if this guy likes me. I've never had a boyfriend before and never really had a "crush" on anyone until recently. I started uni two months ago and that's when I met him - through a society. I'm ridiculously shy which is annoying but I've came out of my shell so much, the only problem is that because I like him I'm shy around him and unless I've drank a few I have no confidence to speak to him because I'm worried I'll appear dumb or make a fool of myself as he is quite intelligent. I usually only see him once a week at our weekly meetings, he also sent me an invitation to his flat warming along with my guy friend (I'm not sure if he thought I'd be more likely to go if I arrived with someone and my guy friend stays at the same accommodation as me and goes to the society too) and it went pretty well there too, he sat next to me a lot and me and a few of the guys crashed in his room, the next morning I was quite ill and when he woke up and heard me shivering he went a got me one of his hoodys and water, he also said I could come into the bed and go to the opposite end under the quilt for heat if I didn't get any warmer. As well as this, he stares at me a lot which I've noticed he doesn't do to anyone else but now I'm not sure if it's because he's maybe caught me looking at him so is now paranoid, the other night he kept his eye contact longer than usual and I stupidly looked away instantly because I was scared haha. We also all started playing a board game and drinking a little and he kept standing up next to me and helping me out and such. At the halloween party my guy friend couldn't come along and I felt like me and my crush got on way better because of it, we were sitting next to each other and messing around with paper, making origami stuff and he used a piece to pretend his hand was eating me. I don't know if I freaked him out by I leant my hand over to grab my drink and accidentally put my hand on his leg and he looked straight down, I removed my hand instantly when I realised what I'd done. Some of the others were planning to go to a party and he kept saying he was tired and probably gonna head home but when he found out I was going he came along too and left at the exact same time I did..Another night someone said about how small I was and he asked me what height I was as he ss 6'4 and I said 5ft exactly and he gave me a thumbs up and said "Niceee" but the way his face was it seemed like he meant "I like it" if that makes sense?I don't even know how to flirt or if someone is flirting with me so I find this all really overwhelming, is there anything I should try and do to subtly suggest I'm interested or signs I should be looking for? Sorry for the long post and possible rambling, I just really like him, I think he's really funny and we have common interests :) Thank you so much in advance for any input!
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reader, NuVu  +, writes (12 November 2012):
It sounds to me like he likes you. I've been terribly shy most of my life too. However, a few years ago i developed a mind trick that really seemed to help when it came to dating.
I would just convince myself that person i liked really, really liked me and thought i was the greatest and sexiest person ever. The result would always be that i was relaxed, fun, laughing, and before i knew it they really did think i was great. Self-fulfilling prophecy i guess. Give it a try.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2012): Thanks for your answer, I really hope he does! and I totally agree, it's great when a girl has the confidence to just be straight about it, I'm so shy though I really don't know if I could, y'know...just in case he doesn't :P I think when I next see him in 2 days I'll try and talk to him more and see what happens in the next few weeks, and hopefully by then I'll have built up enough confidence to ask him out before we break up for christmas! I was thinking instead of going full blown and asking him out to dinner, I could ask if he wants to do a daytime activity since it's more informal, there are lot's of things coming up for christmas so probably something to do with that! Thanks again :)
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reader, bluewarrior911 +, writes (12 November 2012):
 I'm a guy so I'm not qualified to give you flirting advice, but I know one thing is for sure....HE LIKES YOU!!
So...go ask him out. Who said that guys ALWAYS have to be the first to ask a girl out? In fact, guys nowadays are totally turned on by confident girls.
"The LOVE you withhold, is the PAIN you will carry"
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