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writes: Is that a common feeling that you eventually want to have a baby with the one you really love when you are in a serious relationship?My bf is 29 now, I have been dating him for 7 months. He has got a great job at Top bank in NYC. Three months ago, he asked me to move in if I want, but one month later, he never mentioned that again and even usually does not want to stay together by using different resonable excuses like class,homework, exams stuff. Sometimes when we have sex, I sometimes joked a little bit about baby topic, he was very upset and turned off immediately. He requested not to mention baby issue which just made him nervous. I told him I was just joking, I do not want baby either. Last night after we had sex, he wanted to do his work and again ignored that I wanted to stay together. But called me around 3am because he worried about that the condom was broken during the process even he remembered that the condom was not but the slight chance bothered him and kept him awake, so he wanted to discuss with me whether I can take pills to prevent this slight possibility.I felt disappointed, even I do not want baby either, but I just do not feel right! He is the only bf I really love that much and at his case I realize if you really love someone, you want eventually have a kid with him, I just understand why every single of my ex-bfs mentioned/joked about baby issue when we were together.What I can smell from this case and what he treats me after sex is he is not into me, he does not mean what he said to me several times when I wanted to break up, he professed he wanted to have a LTR with me.We are going to graduate in 20 days, he never invited me to move with him at NYC stuff even he acclaimed we should discuss our goals but he did not yet. As a girl, I am tried to initiate this discussion after two times try and think I maybe just leave him after graduation without any further explanation, I am so sick of this.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (22 April 2006):
 You ahve to be dead straight with this guy and demand an answer. Is this relationship going anywere?
Challenge him, ask him outright and don't pussyfoot around. If you don't he will go on avoiding the issue. Tell him how you feel and ask him if he wants to make life plans with you. If he doesn't at least you will know and be able to move on with your life and find somebody who does.
Don't pussyfoot around, just be blunt and ask him!!
Good luck.
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reader, tux  +, writes (21 April 2006):
 It sounds to me, you do have a urge in the back of your head that you want a kid. Apparently, he may just not want one and is worrying that he will.. and there can be a few reasons for that.. just one may be that he does not want a kid. but as for wanting a kid... i know how u feel.
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reader, CaptainPicard +, writes (21 April 2006):
 so he asked you to move him and you didn't answer? That's probably why he didn't mentioned it anymore. As I guy, I'd feel really bad if I proposed someone to move him with me and she didn't enthusiastically answered.
Maybe he is really busy. If you want to date a successful man that is graduated and have a great job, he is going to have less free time.
Regarding the after sex pill, do you want to get pregnant before you even graduated? come on, you probably should graduate first, move with him some time, get married some time later and then you may think about having kids.
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