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*anillafrost
writes:I have a question...It's been bothering me for a while now. I've met this quiet and shy guy through my ex-boyfriend and they used to be good friends. After I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, he confessed that he knew that my ex was cheating. It didn't bother me that he was telling it afterwards, because I wasn't really close to him at that time.At least 4 years later.. We started to chat on Yahoo messenger by coincidence, because we added each other on the friends list 4 years ago. But never really talked to each other till then.He told me that he had a broken heart.. He just broke up with his ex. I felt sorry for him and we started to hang out as friends. We have been close friends about a year now since then. We went on a vacation together and he was very respectful towards me. He had his own appartment at our vacation. He 'lended' me his big room and would buy me breakfast in the morning. He never entered my room without knocking etc.. But was very kind to me.Lately, something happened.. I found out that my ex-boyfriend knew that me and his friend were hanging out together. He actually ended their friendship! But my friend didn't seem bohtered!? I think that was kinda strange.. even if my ex was an asshole.Anyway, he would bring me food whenever I am hungry. Arrange a day off when I am off? Picks me up from work almost everyday? Takes me to the airport, even when it's 7 in the morning? Watch Harry Potter with me? While I was in his bed and he was sitting some uncomfortable place? He's like my diary! He also tells me his secrets, Says I'm a very kind person, gives me his coat when I'm cold and etc.. Now he wants to drive me to Austria because.. I said that I wanted to go there. BUT he never even held my hand or anything! I feel like he is spoiling me too much considered as a friend.Am I insane? Is he in love with me? Or is he just that kind of person who never says no? Am i thinking too much?At last, thank you very much for taking time to read my story. I really appreciate your effort very much!!Ow and sorry for misspells.. I am not an english speaker. **Love
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reader, gettingmarriedsoon  +, writes (26 December 2008):
Lucky girl, beautiful phase of life. enjoy it...talk to him in an open way...don't let this time pass just like that.
All the best
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reader, stefanierach  +, writes (23 December 2008):
men have such a differant way to express their emotions than we do!!!when we have something on our minds it hurts us and bothers us holding it inside until we finally start changing our behavior to see if a man notices but sad to say they never will. men on the other hand don't stress over the is she going to call me tonight? or the what if's? i have went through the same thing youre ging through and we are today friends and i live with him. the nights when he didn't hold me or cuddle i was stressed out thinking i did soething wrong but i never tried to hug or cuddle with him first just afraid of reactions. now to get to the answer this could be one of two things, 1st he could be lonely and want you there just to have someone around or he may start to have feelings for you.i didnt say n e thing for a while which was a good thing but not for as long as i held it in for. it came a time where he tried to start connecting with me emotionally and mentally. and still i held everything inside and for that mistake he says we dont connect in more than a friendship.so learn from my mistake start to ask him and have an open honest comfortable relationship with him. ask him the questions you wrote because he is the only one that can give you the most honest answer! our answers are opinions an d his is the real truth
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): boo hoo.boo hoo.At last I thought read about a Mills & Boon hero?pvtguy why did you have to go and spoil it.boo hoo.boo hoo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): Girl! Go for him.
I am so happy for you.It seems like you like him a lot too.
Why don't you hold his hand first.Maybe when you are crossing a road or something.Take his hand.After you finish crossing the road,still keep holding his hands.Check if he wants to let go of the hand or not.Trust me,he wouldn't let you go.
I wish you all the best.Merry Christmas!!
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reader, nitros  +, writes (21 December 2008):
 It sounds to me like he is very much in love with you. I am a shy guy myself and these are the kind of things I would do to try and show someone I loved them. Its often hard to find away to say it so by doing all these things hes trying to show hes always there for you and is probably hopeing you feel the same :)
And your english is very good, better than mine and im even from england XD
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