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writes:Welllll.... I been with my boyfriend for 8 months now... and besides normal disagreements and such we're great.... but lately I have been finding out more information about his last relationship (the one that ended a month before we began) and I'm realizing that he really loved this girl... they were together for a year... SHE cheated, he forgave and tried to make it work... but couldn't trust her after that.... so yeah that was it I thought.... but I've recently learned they had a frickin bank account together and I've found the statements in places like his draw full of papers and his old bookbag that he takes to work sometimes... and then today I decided to snoop more and found one of HER paycheck stubs in HIS papers.... like I don't understand why any of her shit is still in the room that I lay my head down with him in.... now all of this wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't calling him like a maniac.... this B**** called him back to back 6 times within not even 2 minutes 2 days ago.... and he refused to let me answer it saying he didn't want her to say something slick and then show up at his house wanting to fight me..."I'm like damn its that serious?!"What really pissed me off is that I had already asked him to change his number because I explained to him that the B**** would just keep calling....she stopped calling for like 5 months maybe and then just called 2days ago and I tole him this would happen.... but instead of changing his number when I asked him to, he changed it 2 days ago because she wouldn't stop calling... I feel like maybe he's still holding on... because he tells me he's never been in love like he his with me but we don't have a damn bank account together... I don't know.... I love him so much and it hurts to think that maybe he still loves her or that I've been feeling special... thinking that I'm the first girl he's loved like this (outta his mouth)... for no reason.... A LITTLE ADVICE PLEASE. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dimplez +, writes (8 June 2009):
Dimplez is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I did confront him on everything....truthfully I don't really think he styll loves her....I just kno that she was the onli female that he was serious wit besides me....trust really isn't an issue....I'm just nosey lol if u leave me in ur room nd I'm bored hey ima find sumfn 2 entertain myself lol...I was real upset b4....buh not at him....just at the fact of what she was to him....mayb I'm trippin on the wrong things tho....his family has taken me in as their own and they did that immediately...she wasn't even allowed in his room lol....we lay 2gether in his bed all day nd moms brings us food wen she cooks nd everything she even talks about my issues with the ex- and she calls the girl krazy....my boifriend tells me that there are paper in that draw that haven't been touched since 10th grade its a junk draw basically....and I think to myself....I have one....tho he's not as thorough with kleaning his out as I am wit mine lol.....I gotta give him a break kuz he's always with me so he never has time...I mean from the time he gets off work he's with me then I go home then 5 mins he kalls and we fall asleep on the fone then he wakes me up with a "goodmorning beautiful" text....which he has done from the day I tole him I wanted to be with him...never missed a day....I guess its me who has to let go of his past....not him...he tole me last night that if I find anything I should just throw it away and that used to bother him if I didn't ask 1st...so yea lol.....p.s. thanks for the feedback guys...its highly appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): hon, did you ever confront him with the bank statement issue?
He got to give you some explanations about that before we can comment.
Good luck.
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