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writes:So, my fiance and I have been together for almost three years, and most everything has been great. The one thing that really concerns me happens during sex. He has a very difficult time getting and remaining erect, as well as reaching orgasm, especially when he's inside me. We will be a few minutes in and suddenly he's lost it. And in order to reach orgasm he has to go really fast, which is exhausting.Also, he doesn't want to come inside me most of the time. He wants to come on me somewhere, which I'm not a huge fan of. I don't mind really, but I feel it takes away from the intimacy. I feel like more of a piece of meat when it's on me.My biggest fear is that he isn't truly attracted to me. I'm a tad overweight, and I think he prefers slim women. I've lost 40 pounds so far, but I have a ways to go. Do you think that his problem is with my body or something else?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 June 2013):
 Agree with CindyCares. The only guys who seem to only be able to finish with "extreme" sex acts like money shots are the ones who watch way too much porn. Since he is actively having trouble staying hard, I would venture it's bordering on, if it isn't already, an addiction. It's one of the major causes of ED in young healthy men. Check out this site for more info.
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (27 June 2013):
 HI
It could be a few things. The weight is sometimes a problem for men especially if they prefer smaller women, were you smaller when you met each other? it's great your doing something about it, however if he loves you ( which he does) he will love everything about you. It could be that when he wants to ejaculate ON you rather than in you he knows there is less chance of a pregnancy, there could be many things that have changed. I feel the best way to ease your mind is to have a heart to heart with him. And if you want honest answers you have to be prepared to except and want to rectify the problems in order for you both to move forward from this. Asking him for the truth then jumping down his throat about his honesty will only push you further apart. I'm sure his feeling not so great about it either. Keep up with the getting healthy again if not for him but for you, when you start to feel good and confident in yourself he will want to get closer to you as guys don't do well with doom and gloom , they love confidence and positive vibes.
Good luck
Mandy x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 June 2013):
 Hard and fast.... the money shot..... your bf sounds like he could be an avid porn consumer. No moral dressing downs, just the facts ... porn addiction has this kind of side effects.
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