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Is he guarding his heart because of this miscommunication about a future with children?

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Question - (18 August 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 August 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, *ardia writes:

I just learned my boyfriend thinks I really don't want children. He really does want them (his eyes just light up when he imagines it!). I barely touched on the issue early in the relationship because I didn't want to freak him out about 'the future'. I mentioned I wasn't sure if I wanted children or if I could even have them. Age is significant in this relationship (I'm 13 years older and I worry there could be potential fertility issues).

I would consider it a blessing to have them if I did or could. I've just never thought I was ever going to either have the opportunity to have or even the physical possibility of being a mother.

His affections for me have been somewhat guarded throughout these 9 months we've been together. He has told me he loves me. Could his reluctance to completely open up to me be because he doesn't want to get hurt knowing we'd have to break up eventually if I really didn't want children?

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A female reader, RedAthena United States +, writes (18 August 2011):

RedAthena agony auntYou are asking strangers to guess what is in your Bf's head.

You have only been together 9mos, while it is normal to think about bigger commitments with someone, is'nt it really a bit too soon to sort that out?

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