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writes:Ok, so I have a theory that after the 5 or 6th month of a relationship, it either finishes or it blossoms. I'm in between the 5th and 6th month of a relationship with my current boyfriend. We haven't said "I love you" in a serious or formal way, but I do love him, and I do believe he loves me, I think.. Anyway, we've said I love you, but it hasn't been in a real serious matter or anything, but anyway, my problem:This last week, he's been really distant, about 3 weeks ago, I met his family, like his aunts and uncles and grandparents, and they all really like me, but since then, he's been kind of distant. When we see each other, he doesn't kiss me or hug me when I walk in the door. We don't kiss as much as we used to. He doesn't show interest in me anymore. I've lost some weight, and so my boobs have gotten smaller, and it seems like he isn't interested in them anymore (even though I've always been somewhat self-conscious of how small they are and didn't care if he paid attention to them or not) but he doesn't anymore, at all, he used to say they were the perfect size. He doesn't even touch them anymore. Today, I asked him a serious question, which was if he hooked up with a girl while we were seeing each other, and I know he did, but he denied it, and was totally distant in the conversation, which is weird because he usually is totally interested and engaged in the convo.. He stopped calling me babe, he doesn't talk about the future anymore like he used to.. I don't know what is going on. This happened to me before with my ex, so maybe I'm just being paranoid, but he and I broke up in our 5th month of the relationship because, I guess he just got bored or lost interest. So this is kinda for the guys, if you lose interest in the girl, do you distance yourself first, and then break up with her or what.. are these warning signs?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): trust and communication are the most important things in any relationship. Ask him why is he so distant? tell him you feel he's changed and maybe he'll tell you why.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 I don't agree with your theory at all, I think every couple have ups and downs and each relationship flourishes and fails at different times. You are basing your current relationship on previous things, don't do this! Its wrong to compare! If you really want to know what's going on then talk to him, don't ask us what's going on because we can't read his mind! X
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