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writes:My boyfriend was supposed to come on a trip with me last friday, and he never showed up...a few hours later he texted me and told me his mom was in the hospital, and that he was there all night and his phone was dead, so his room mate brang his charger over..then the next day, he was at his aunts, and helping her out with some things...and i asked him if he wanted to come over later. He said 'yeah after i finish' so we texted for a bit...and at like 9:30 he said he was getting his stuff ready...so i waited, and i started getting really tired, so i texted him again and asked where he was and he said 'im rushing to get there, thanks for being so patient, love you'. That was at like 11:30. So i waited some more...till like 2am...and before i fell asleep i told him the door was unlocked and to wake me up when he got here. But in the morning, he wasnt here...and when i texted him it came us as 'unidentified subscriber' and i tried calling him but his phone was cut off. Everyone's saying stuff like 'hes giving you the cold shoulder', 'maybe hes tring to dump you' and all these other things. I hate it, because before we started dating these 2 girls said all this shit about how he tries to get with everyone...but i dont really believe them...cuz they kinda look like the kinda people that like to gossip, and one of them dated him for a few days then dumped him...but anyways what everyones saying is upsetting becausei really like him, and when i was with him he NEVER gave me a reason to think he was guna break up with me. Everything perfect when were together.What do you think happened?Ive thought about everything.Im even worried that he got jumped..mbecause he always carries alot of expensive stuff around with him, and if he had his phone, he could get my number from it and call me from his home phone, but he hasnt... and ive thought that maybe he lost his phone, cuz he does that alot...but if he did lose his phone, why didnt he show up?Ugh, im so confused. Idk what to do, i just wanna see him...to no hes okay...even if he doesnt wana be with me anymore... and idk where he lives, i know what street, but ive never actually been there...What do you think happened?Or what should i do? :'( /3
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): I agree with "Heartbroken in Love" - monkey see, monkey do. Stop showing that you care so much even if you do. Although you both are really young, if this guy really likes you and wants to spend time with you he will make an effort too. Let him be a man...at some point he has to learn do you understand? Don't run up after him, asking him to come see you, asking him to go places with you, calling him so much, asking him so many questions. I would bring his negative actions to his attention ONE TIME and ONE TIME ONLY, after that all other communication would be none-verbal...he will get the picture. Don't be so clingy or make this guy your life. Don't allow him to consume your life---you are young...have more going for yourself than trying to get and keep the interest of a man. Boys and men are simple to say the least. Even the most shyest guy or emotionally hurt guy will show he cares at some point. As a teenage girl about to be a young woman, you need to learn now on how to deal with men and relationships. You should try reading a book called "Why Men Love Bitches" (excuse my language), by Sherry Argov. There is another relationship book I am reading right now called "10 Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives." I don't remember the name of the author, but if you are interested in purchasing either of these books, you can do so at Amazon.com. The earlier you start learning about relationships and dating, the better off you will be and the closer you will be to securing a loving and long lasting relationship with the right guy.
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reader, s.a.r.ah_ +, writes (1 December 2009):
s.a.r.ah_ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe doesnt have a way to talk to me. If he lost his phone then he doesnt have my number, and he prolly doesnt wanna come over cuz he thinks i moved. (I was supposed to move yesterday).
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (1 December 2009):
This is not tough at all. He dsnt seem to be making much effort to see you. If he was all about seeing you he wud see you. Mirror his actions and just start ignoring him. And when he calls you up cause he gonna wonder why you stopped calling him guess what? You give him the bs excuses. Here one you can use. He calls you and asks if you wanna hang out and you tell him you gotta wash your hair and do your nails.
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reader, s.a.r.ah_ +, writes (1 December 2009):
s.a.r.ah_ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had his room mates phone number on my phone, but i think it got removed...i have like no way to contact him and its stressing me out.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 hmm, this is a tough one, his excuse does seem plausible, but the fact he hasnt contacted you since is a bit odd. Are you able to contact his mate, the one that brought his charger to him? On this occassion I would ignore the gossips and give him a few days to give an explanation.
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