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writes:My boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago now. It's his 21st birthday in 2 days and I feel like I have to acknowledge him in some way, but don't want to look desparate. We'd been going out for 2 years, and were friends before that. He'd always give me really cool presents when it was my birthday, or at christmas. The problem is he was the one that did the dumping, and left me coz he was interested in another girl. I don't know whether they are together or not now. He said he still wanted me for a friend, but hasn't contacted me since. I'm wondering whether this is to give me space to move on, he he just doesn't want anything to do with me? I've moved on and pretty much over him now, been dating other guys and all. I know our relationship is totally finished, isn't not that I want him back. Its just he was one of my best friends. what should I do???????
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): a friendship works two ways. he hasn't tried checkin on you or anything. i think you should jus leave it at that. if you rly wanna contact him tho i think a text or e-mail should be appropriate. if he replies positivly than go for the gift
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (27 October 2007):
 You must be very sad still, I'm sorry this happened. I think it is very likely that he is giving you space to move on, actually I must say that it is very good of him to not call you and mess with your mind. Also, if he is still with the other girl he might want to show her he moved on from you.
I understand you want to acknowledge his birthday. It is not long ago you were still the best friends and it is very natural to feel you want to give him something. My advice to you though would be to not contact him at all. It is very likely you will get very upset and feel bad afterwards. If you feel you can't resist, than don't give him anything too much, just send him a small card or a text message. Just a plain one to be nice, it is nothing wrong with that. But be prepared if it turns out he doesn't reply or only reply short.
Hopefully after a little more while you can really become friends again but maybe right now is too early for you to see him with another girl?
Take care of your heart here! Wish you the best!
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reader, Emzy1591 +, writes (27 October 2007):
 Move on, if he wanted to stay friends he would of got in contact by now. Maybe just send him a card or something? When you've been in a relationship with someone and you say you still want to be friends, it very rarely happens because of all the tension between you. Whenever ive broken up with my boyfriends it takes ages to be able to be on the "friend" terms. Now some of my ex's are my best friends but that didnt happen overnight. So if he gets in contact by all means meet up etc but i suggest going out with ur girlfriends and meeting new guys n new friends. x
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