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female
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41-50,
*abbystar
writes:I have an employee who sits across from me at work. He peeks at my cubicle several times a day. I ignore him because I am way too busy. Then, he manages to come to my cubicle to ask me a question. However, he sits down and starts a conversation, staring me in the eyes. I keep it work related. I do not understand what his intentions are. He has a girlfriend. Ironically, he tells me everything about his current and past relationships; where he lives, etc. He is very open and honest. Is this guy trying to flirt with me? Or, is he comfortable around me to find a way to talk to me?I dislike these mixed signals, but would like advice. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): Watching you, asking questions as an excuse to open a conversation, prolonged eye contact, disclosing personal information... to me it sounds like flirting. Either that, or he's hoping for a promotion! People with whom you have a comfortable aquaintanceship and nothing more don't look for specific opportunities to talk to you, they simply let it happen naturally and as required.
I think you should keep doing what you're doing already: ignoring the attention and keeping the talk brief and professional. With any luck, when he finds you're refusing to be drawn into familiarity it'll only be a matter of time before he loses interest. If his behaviour persists or worsens, perhaps you'll need to have a kind but firm word with him about his conduct, but it probably won't come to that. No, just don't give him the notice he craves and see how it goes :) Good luck and take care x
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