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writes:im 19 and ive been seeing this guy for a short while, its nothing serious and i have known this from day one. we only see each other most weekends and i am kinda ok with that for now, i think he likes me too but im not sure i dont know if this is because of my paranoia and my insecurities about myself. sometimes i dont understand why he doesnt want a real relationship with me and i start coming to all sorts of conclusions in my head, but on the other hand i am just happy to have the little time that i get with him because i really like him, all my past relationships have failed i think mainly because of things moving to fast too soon (not nessicarily in a sexual manner) just being together too much so i dont want to ruin what we have by doing that. do u think hes ever gonna get serious with me or am i wasting my time ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): I think it is impossible to predict with any certainty the answer to your question is he going to ever get serious with you...and if you are enjoying his company, then no you are not wasting your time....the mistake women make in dating is they put all their attention into one man too early, if he is not offering you an exclusive relationship then you can aleviate your worry by seeing other men, don't give him every weekend, or don't wait for his call, if you have other male friends or have lots of things to keep you busy, then you won't feel that you are always waiting for him, if he realizes your dance card is getting full, then he may step up to the plate and spend more time with you before you go with someone else....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): Well, it's good that you realize that seeing each other too much too fast is bad. However if you only see him weekends he either has a hectic job (which could be the case) or he may be dating multiple people. Have you asked if your relationship is exclusive? Some men date multiple women and use the excuse later that the women never implied it was supposed to be monogamous. But lets face the facts you like being with your guy a lot. He only sees you 2 or 3 times a week. Ask if he could come over 1 more day a week a try and compromise. If he does that, that probably means he wants to be with you. The best thing to do instead of jumping to conclusions is just staright out ask him to spend more time with you. If he makes it clear he wants nothing serious, then that means exactly that and you need to find someone else you will want you long term.
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