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writes:[MOD NOTE: OP's own title]I met a guy online who seems really normal. We started talking on AIM every night for several hours and we seem to have a lot in common.But he won't ask me out. He did one time, even picking a place, but this hasn't ever been suggested again (due to scheduling problems on both our sides, so i didn't blow him off or anything). Since then, we still talk, he initiates the IMing. He seems a bit on the quiet side.So, my question is-- is he ever going to ask me out? I mean, if he wasn't interested, he wouldn't keep IMing me right? Should I just ask him out instead?The thing is the conversation seems to be lacking as time goes on. I find I have less and less to same to him. But there's only so much you can say to someone online without revealing too much of myself. But is this a sign he might not want to meet anymore...? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Suggest chatting on the phone and if he agrees, ring him and don't give out your landline.
There are some men out there who are shy, and others contacting women on the internet when they are in relationships.
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (13 September 2010):
 ASK HIM OUT.
Allow me to let you in to the psyche of a man when we ask a girl out. If she says "yes" she is interested. If she says she is interested but she says "Sorry, but I can't go this weekend" she in uninterested but doesn't want to hurt our feelings. We believe this because women have done this since the beginning of time because they don't want to hurt our feelings.
He thinks you don't like him in that way and was really vulnerable the first time. If he gets burned again he's really gonna feel stupid so that's why he never asked you again.
He made the first move so now it's your turn. He'll definitely say yes.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (12 September 2010):
 These days there are a lot of people who are fulfilled with just chatting or texting back and forth but never being with anyone. I don't know if everyone is afraid to put themselves out there or if people are just afraid to meet someone in person because then the relationship might be over if the other person doesn't feel that "chemistry."
It doesn't seem to be a generational thing either, hitting all ages. Like oldersister, I'd rather sit down and have a beer with someone in person. But I also know that people are on-line with so many options of people to choose from and so many are juggling multiple "relationships" that to find the time isn't that easy.
I have tried on-line dating (seems like a forced meeting rather than a fateful encounter) but when a guy doesn't want to meet after a few introductory emails, I move on. If you want a physical relationship then I suggest you ask him for a meeting in person and if he doesn't respond or is too busy then he probably isn't the relationship you are looking for.
Good luck with your search.
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