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writes:I need a straight answer. I suffer from post trauamtic stress disorder so am inclined to get paranoid from time ot itme so need anothers opinion. About a month ago my high school boyfriend got back in touch. We havent spoken in 3 years because I moved away and we now live at opposite ends of the country. The break up at high school was silly and we were only about 14. Since getting back in touch we've psoken a lot and both agee we'd like to try "us" again. However, we both have bery busy lives. Both at unviersity and as anyone who is at uni will tell you, exam period is looming. Neither of us has a mutually free weekend till April so we've agreed we'll spend a week together in April. My ex is a really rational guy, and often the voice of reason and calm in my head lately. However, he doesnt txt me a lot and when I speak to him about this, it comes across as he just feels we have to wait till April to be closed and that we cant get close before then because one of us will get hurt. He has said I don't have to keep myself single until April and that what will happen will happen. Does this make sense? On one hand, I feel I don't want to get too close to him because I'll just end up missing him to April. Is he doing the sensible thing here by keeping us at arms length?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): Well i'm a guy and well... I wouldn't even dare meet up with him because #1 he's your ex and there are other guys out there in your life #2 he could be setting you up and trying to break your heart #3 if her doesn't text you alot then somethng is up #4 when he says wait untill April or somebody will get hurt SERIOUSLY come on! that's just completely rude to say to a female ..... i don't know you guys and i already know that SOMETHING is up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): No, and he's also not sensible about the future possibility of a relationship. He and you are not (emotionally)available for each other. It would be nice to go back to the familiar relationship, but would it really work?
What would you get from it even if you would be a couple again, when you hardly can see each other? You need a guy who is ready for you and who is there for you. Maybe your ex is looking for sex or some other sort of temporary entertainment??
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