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*ola29
writes:dear cupid readers, my bf of two years, (on and off) called me up really late at night because he thought i was doign something behind his back, after seeing my facebook wall. He thinks im flirting with so many guys and that its enough, but there really is nothing to be so worried about, one of them is a family friend and just coz I called him sweet he got so mad and he wouldnt believe me. the other message was from someone he'd told to stay away from me and he did get the message, but he just messaged me to see how i am and he did say some nice things to me. now he saw the way i messaged back and he had no problem with it, but he's acting all paranoid its too much for me to handle, i cant seem to say anything to make him feel better, this has happened twice before, and now i dont feel too comfortable to talk to him about it or well be around him now. advice please? is he being abit obsessive and protective, or is he really worried im going to cheat on him, which i wont -.-
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reader, lola29 +, writes (12 April 2010):
lola29 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for the advice, i get what you mean, and i tried being in his shoes and understanding why he got mad.
But what i dont get, is the other day he was okay and he called me up and was in a pretty good mood, he was telling me how he was thinking about it and that we havent talked in awhile ..( i have exams so was pretty busy) and that he thought of me alot over everything and that he knows i love him alot. But then if he knows that- why always accuse me that i really dont and i am doing something behind his back. This has happend more than once before, and i really think he's being insecure that I'll find someone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): saying someone of the opposite sex is "sweet" or that you miss them is kind of inappropriate if you have a boyfriend. But you can have friends of the opposite sex, just make sure you arent attracted to them and they don't like you, otherwise no wonder your boyfriend feels jealous. If you love your boyfriend you shouldn't do things that will upset him, and respect him, but at the same time you should do what you want to do as long as you aren't looking for outside attention from other guys to help you feel more secure. If he tells you who you can be friends with then you have a controller on your hands. My best advice is do with other guys only what you would be comfortable with him doing with another girl.
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