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writes:Earlier asked questionI am 23 years old and have a 23 months old daughter with a lad i was with for nearly 4 years. Sadly my grandad died of cancer 11 weeks ago and i have been grieving for him a lot. Me and my boyfriend split up on the same day that was 11 weeks since he died. The day after would have been my grandads 76th birthday. I did a pregnancy test and came back positive. My ex wants me to keep the baby and deep down i want to too. Only thing i live in a 2 bedroom house with my mum who has M.S and i share a bedroom with my daughter already. But now my mum sed if i want to keep the baby i have to move out before im 3 months pregnant. (Im 4 weeks now) I feel really pressured to get rid of the baby but i never have agreed with it and i know i wil regret it. I am still grieving my granddad and upset about splitting with my ex and dont need getting rid of my baby on my mind as well. Im on council list but could be a while yet. Anyone got any advice on what to do and what help i could get to move out money wise and if id be able to cope.Now my mum has come round to the idea if i wanna keep the baby it is up to me. But me and my ex stil havent spoke face to face about it yet. i asked him last week if i had my own house would things between us be different and he said i think so and i said to try and be a family with our daughter and unborn child and he sed dont know. He told me he didnt love and care about me anymore. Then went out that night and sent me a message a 4am saying just got in totally off my head and loving it. Everything was spelt correct and i wil be 1st to admit you cant text when you're that bad.then the next morning he couldnt remember sending it and apologised and said he does care cos we been through a lot together. Then he sed we can take our daughter out to seaside for her birthday just the 3 of us. that is instead of booking her a birthday party. Then he goes racing on his bike and he had been this weekend and i asked who knows we split up cos i talk to a couple on internet and he said they knew then when i spoke to one of them she didnt even know. Now he decided that he isnt happy about the baby and in an arguement told me to get rid then said sorry he didnt want to talk about it. Going to his in 2 days to talk about things face to face. Im in the middle now of getting my own house. New development!!!Went to his house to talk yesterday, he told me he loves me to pieces and its killing him doing this but he has to. We ended up sleeping together and he sed it hurt him more cos it ment so much to him, but befire that he sed that he would love to be able to come to mine and see his daughter but he cant cos he isnt made welcome by my mum. My mum gets on at me alot and it gets me down and stresses me out and makes me a miserable cow and i dont go near him for kisses and cuddles or ne thing more. I have been to look at a house today and am hoping it get it as its lovely. Going to hear next week. My ex said he wil help me in anyway to move into my home and that when i move in he would like to be able to come round more and see me and his daughter and see how things go and take it slow and hopefully start a fresh as a family and forget everything from the past. But until i leave the stressful feeling at home he cant do with my moods. He sed he didnt tell me earlier as he would give in and we would get back together cos he loves me that much and it would all come back to this.What is ne one elses opinion on all this and my ex, do u think he been genuine xxx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 It does sound like he is being genuine. OK so yes he has made a few mistakes but hey everybody does and it sounds like he regrets saying the things he did. I think things will be a lot easier for you when you settle in to your own home and start an independent life. Take things slowly and just see how they go. Good Luck.
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