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writes:If you were a single Mom and there was a cute guy at your office who seemed to go out of his way to stop by your desk each day and say hello, sometimes picked up lunch for you when you were working on a project; alway made a point of sitting across or next to you in meetings, seemed to intentionally try to make you laugh. Would you think he was attracted to you?....My husband is always a nice guy to both men and women he knows and works with. But twice there have been single women at his office who have gotten the wrong idea and it's caused problems between us. He claims he does the same things for the guys he works with, and I keep telling him the guys aren't going to get goo-goo eyes over that kind of niceness, whereas the women typically do. I keep telling him he needs to be a little more cautious around the single girls because some of them don't have anyone in their lives who pays attention to them so it goes to their heads; like the last one, and the current one who's been sending him text messages that are way too friendly. He gets mad and tells me I don't trust him; tells me I am accusing him of having sex with them but I'm not. I don't really think he's ever let it go that far, but there's a pattern here and I know he's not entirely innocent either. His idea of being nice would be flirting to some people, especially if they're looking for the attention. Why is it so hard to make him see the cause and effect of some of these actions? Am I being played or are nice men really this naive?
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (16 January 2012):
The truth lies in how he responds to the attention he gets back.
Honestly, he should just tell them he wants to keep the relationship professional, and the texting is crossing the line.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (16 January 2012):
 Nice guys usually arent that naive esp if they wake up like me. What? This guy thinks every girl should be treated like a princess? True: If he's just being nice to them, chances are he isnt attracting these women because being nice like the way he is isnt a rule in creating attraction but ill guarantee you they at least like the attention.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 This is his personality and he is not going to change it now. At the end of the day he is being nice and does not see it as a crime. It is them that is letting this attention go to there head, as long as he sets them straight then I think you should just try and accept that this is who he is. If he is always honest with you about it and doesn't hide things well then I would imagine it is safe to say that he probably just enjoys a laugh and a flirt.
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