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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone,My problem is really nothing new and I am sure some of you have been something similar but I am just at a loss. Basically I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months but we were best friends for a while before we started dating. We work together (but in separate departments) and recently work has been very stressful and we've both been under lots of pressure. So we haven't been able to see as much of each other as we usually would. I felt like we had been drifting apart a bit but I put this down to not being able to see him and the stress and thought we should just spend more time together. But when I brought this up with him he agreed about us drifting apart and told me that he had been feeling things haven't been good for a few weeks. Then he went on to say that he can't decide if the problem is down to stress from work which is making him apathetic about everything or if it's just a problem with us. He then told me he doesn't even know if he loves me anymore. But when I got upset he told me I am overreacting and it isn't a big deal...he honestly wants to believe work is the problem.He has gone home for a week to 'sort his head out' but before he left we hung out and things were great and he agreed he felt really close to me. Basically I just don't understand...I am giving him space but I am a) gutted - I really didn't see it coming (but then I guess you never do) b) really worried if I don't contact him at all he'll forget about me and then blame me rather than work. Should I believe him when he says it's probably work that's making him feel like this? Or is it that he just doesn't want to admit that he's just over us? Any advice would be really appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): I think its probably because you work in the same palce when you get home there is nothing fresh to talk about.I know jobs are hard to get but is it possible oen could transfer to another building? I think its the boredom of always being there to be honest
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