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41-50,
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writes:I don't understand this man. My once boyfriend then ex then friend then boyfriend is driving me crazy. . He wanted to remain friends and we did he was there for my every time I needed him when my other friends were not. We got close again,and once again he draws me back in. We had incredible sex as always since we have great attraction. But when We get very closeagian he retreats - overworks at home and business, I tell him I am not going to sleep with you if you are with others. We talk on the phone he says he just is not a one woman man. I say fine as I told you I am happy to be just friends. I go away for 3 weeks he starts calling me like crazy. His actions always contradict his words. I call when I get back and now we are back into a realtionship laughing, happy, loving, etc. Puts me back on the list to get into where he lives. I had to go away for 1 week, we talked twice - I called him. I got back yesterday. Left him a message at 3:00 when I was getting on the plane. Got in at six - no call so I called him. We chatted I said I thought you would take me out tonight, he said a guy for the lawsuit is coming over how about tomorrow? I said fine. I called him around 9:00pm no answer. My instincts said he was out. I called back at 9:30 no answer so I said I guess you must be on a date hope you are having fun and P.S. I can't not take this anymore - (loving one day, retreating the next). I haven't called him and haven't heard from him. Is this guy so afraid of his feelings that he hides? I have never had someone so loving one minute and then consume himself with work the next and hide in the cave. I really do care for him and would like to try but his rereating is too much. It is not normal. Or is he just a manipulative bastard and getting what he wants and then pulling away to date others. No signs of women at his house. Oh and yes he is one of the most stubborn people I have ever met. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): I posted this questions and I did want to add this...He does talk about "us" though. What shall we wear for halloween and were should we go, what shall we prepare for our Xmas party and what theme should "we" have. Do you want to have your mother over for Thanksgiving? So that is why this whole thing is confusing.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
This guy is no good full stop. He's using you for sex and that's it. He even said that he wasn't a one woman man. He's not worth your time and if you stay in contact with him, he'll just continue to hurt you. You need to end this and stop contact completely so he knows it's over. Then find a guy who will commit to you and you alone. This guy is using you. Don't let him,.
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