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writes: Actually I met this guy beside my office he too working there. At first it was just a physical attraction. After 1 year we started talking. I knew that he was going for dating with other girls. Once a situation has happened which we got intimate. Actually I was not looking for a relationship with him because he is not a serious type I felt.Around three times we met, every time he was getting closer to me I felt. First I thought he is sexually attached with me but gradually I got to know that once after meeting me he stopped dating other girls. I was a kind of girl who used to go church so he started going temple as well. I love gardening even he too started that...but he never ever reveals all these things in front of me, i got to know all these from some of his friends and those friends don't know about our relationship. Whatever I like that he is following that too without letting me know.Only once he said that he loves me and he said that he can't stay with me forever. But after few months he started changing like this as I mentioned above. I am not getting whether he is a genuine guy or not. What to do? Whether I can continue this relationship with him or not? Before he used to go dating with random girls. I felt like he started loving me not after the sex, only after he got to know about my character. But these changes on him making me puzzled that he is getting serious about me. He is a type of guy if he wants something he needs it at any cost, like a kid. Or else he will get angry. But within few hours his anger will reduce, he only will come and talk to me again . I love him, but couldn't treat him as a partner because I have a fear that once he will get bored of me and will start dating other girls again. I am not getting what to do? Shall I move on or stick around? Please help me.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (6 May 2016):
 I think that he just may have budding interests. As previously mentioned, he really needs to grow up and stop throwing temper tantrums whenever he gets upset.I think he may just be trying his hand at new things such as the gardening and stuff that you mentioned, I don't think that it shows that he can't be trusted. It is quite strange to me though so I'd keep paying attention if I were you. Just take it really slow, pay attention to signs and see where it goes. If he shows signs of violence and continues with outbursts then be very weary because you may have to cut all contact with this guy. Good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 April 2016):
 Maybe he took up the same interests in you to try and get to understand you better? If you are able to have a sexual relationship with him, then am sure you are able to talk to him about this and ask him what he wants? Does he want a relationship?
If you don't think he is genuine well then stop having a physical relationship with him. Maybe he is worth giving a chance, just because he began the same hobbies as you does not mean that he is only messing you around, you need to be able to talk to him and see what he wants, plus you need to figure out what it is that you want.
I am not sure exactly what he has done to make you think he is not serious about you, okay he used to date different girls, but so does a lot of guys, he took up the same interests in you, he gets angry when he cannot get his own way, well he needs to grow up a little hear, you just need to tell him. If his anger gets out off control well then tell him you want nothing more to do with him and cut all contact.
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