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writes:- dating for months-feel comfortable enough (i've been shirtless in front of him and felt totally comfortable)-he told me he loved me first. and he respects that i want to wait (he's not a virgin, i am)-we had the chance to have sex when my mom was out, but he said he wanted to wait. and i felt the same way.-if he had a chance to have sex, i changed in front of him and he was steps away, if he wanted to, wouldn't he?-we've talked about sex and he told me if we ever did have it, he'd be careful 'cause he doesn't wanna hurt me down there.-before we even thought about sex, he showed he cared for me. even when we weren't dating, he acted like he was my boyfriend.-he's protective over me. not crazy-only i can touch you-protective but i don't want anything bad to happen to you-protective. -he's a year older then me, we met when i was in 7th grade, he was in 8th. when he graduated we didn't talk that much. but my 8th grade year we started dating, even though he moved to the Bronx.-walks me home, walks me anywhere i want.-treats me like a princess, never everrr let's me pay.-takes me to the movies and to eat a lot. (of course, he pays)-he knows everything that has happened to me.-i trust him completly!is having sex with him gonna ruin all this? he swore he'd never want anything to change. even if we do break up. i met his sister and she told me i was the first girl she met and that he always talks about me and hid best friend said the same and that he's never seen his boy act like that about a girl. (: i haven't met his mom yet, but i'm planning to. my mom is gonna meet him soon. his whole family wouldn't lie, right? any possitive stories about their first time? anybody in this same situation? :]
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (27 July 2010):
 I think that sex could enhance your relationship ONCE YOU ARE READY. Its wonderful that you've waited so long and that you and him are working out so well.
Please note that even though in this world sex is viewed as a fun activity, but the consequences are the same. I'm NOT saying to wait until you're married, but I'd advise you to at least wait until you are able to drive.
Please also know that I'm not trying to be agist, I've just seen a friend of mine have a baby when she was 14 and it was tough for her to get through highschool and be a mommy too. Another one of my friends got pregnant at 15 and she had an abortion, it was very hard for her to cope with that.
but back to your question, Sex will enhance a loving relationship, but I still advise you wait until you're absolutely sure you are ready :)
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