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writes:i have been with a guy for nearly 4 months and im happy but he is asking about sex. im not sure if im ready and is 4 months long enough?? its just that everytime we're alone together we come so close to having it and i have to stop because im not sure if its right. is it right or would it ruin what we've got?? Reply to this Question
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 No, four months is not enough and since you are not feeling ready, then you are definately NOT ready. Do not allow him to pressure you into this. If he pressures you AT ALL then it is a HUGE red flag that he doesnt care about you very much. He may claim to love you, but if he did he would not ask you to do something that made you unconfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): 4 hours has seemed long enough for me before! Haha, no but seriously, you should go off how you feel. if youre not ready for it yet, then dont!! If there is any specific reasons, like bad experience, never slept with anyone before etc, maybe you should talk to him about it? Good Luck!
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (23 October 2008):
 If you are having doubts then you are not ready. You are ready when you want to get him out of those clothes and make sweet sweet love to you.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 October 2008):
It it right once you feel you are ready to give yourself up to him.
But you need to be honest and tell him if you are no where near ready, or he is going to keep getting his hopes up and then getting frustrated. That's not fair to anyone.
If you don't ever thing you'll want sex with him then you have to split up with him. You may love the incredible emotional intimacy but if there is no physical side then you just want him as a friend and nothing more.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): just do what you feel is right. Your a girl, we seem to have this wierd sixth sense. If you think hes a genuine guy go for it, but remember its something you wont forget for a while so think hard about whether you want to go that far :)
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