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writes:Is five months long enough time to get over an ex? I was with my ex about a year and we were engaged. I met my current boyfriend five months after me and my ex broke up. Everything was great at the beginning, now I keep having thoughts of my ex even though i would never go back to him because he didn't treat me right.
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Hi,
I dont know what cause you to break up with you ex but i believe you still have an unfinished feeling with him. There is something you probably need to talk to him in order to have a happy/fair ending/closure. That happened to me, i broke up with my ex-bf two years ago and all communication was cut off completely but i was still thinking of him. We both still had carried an unfinished negative feeling. Eventhough i am married a nice man, i still could not get him out of my mind. I think it is not healthy for my new relationship and its not fair for my husband. I decided to write to him and cleared our thought. We both are happy now. I don't think of him anymore. I love my husband with all my heart.
You could try my approach. Dont let your unfinished feeling ruin your new relationship. If you love, are happy with your new boyfriend, I believe you will get over it over a period of time. Best wishes to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): We can't give a time limit of how long it takes for us to get over something.For example,you and your ex.You almost married him,so he was close to you and you really loved him,so I don't think it will take you 5 months.You could get over it in a matter of years,or never.But it's ok.Don't
think that just because it's over,you have to get over him right away.It takes time,no matter how long you've been apart.You may get over him,but that memory will never go away.But try not to think about him so much and focus on your new man.Wish you the best.x
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (7 August 2008):
 I would venture a guess that if you were engaged to be married, you two were obviously close to each other. Whatever happened to break that relationship up will probably haunt you for some time to come... seriously you "almost" got married... of course you're going to think about this guy and run it over and over again in your mind... I really wouldn't worry about it too much. Just don't let the past preoccupy too much of the present and your current boyfriend. I would say that you should (if you haven't already) mention to the new guy just how close you got to being married. That's just pain old being open and honest.
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