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writes: is it cheating if you are going onto chat sites and chat to guys and talk to them in a sexual way. Sex with my husband is non existent and i feel its the only way i can get rid of my frustration. Yes i have tried to approach my husband to do things to make things more exciting, but he doesn-t seem to be that bothered...... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): YES, as much as any other form of cheating or unfaithfulness.
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reader, I Waited For The One  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Cyber Sex is cheating my girl did it to me and i will admit to you all it put this nasty feeling in my belly she said it was all fun. it's never fun because it's cheating. i'm sorry u don't have sex like other's say " talk 2 him about it " or leave him or invest in some sex toy's talking to a guy over the net is " ok " but talking dirty is " not! "
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): Astrid, actually that makes sense. I know what she's doing feels/seems morally unethical, but your perspective doesn't seem wrong either. Hmm... Something to think about before dinner... 8]
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reader, rachael123 +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Yes i beleive its cheating.does your husband know? does he do it with you i doubt it! that means its wrong and cheating. if your that frustrated id suggest a rampint rabbit. works every time!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 Well I think it is not cheating at all it's just having fun and you maybe get more turned on before intercourse with your partner so I think you can go on unless this affects your marriage or sexual life
enjoy
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reader, bonym +, writes (5 December 2006):
 Of course its cheating as you are seeking pleasure elsewhere even if you have not actually got into bed with another man. You need to talk to your partner, you need to understand each other and communicate and tell him how you feel. Sex is a big part of marriage, so you need to talk it over. Good luck. xX
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reader, eddie  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 YES it's cheating. You're not dealing with the problem at home, you're making another one.
If you want to get out of the habit, try this. Picture yourself sitting at the computer, talking to a man about is penis and your vagina. That, after all, is what you're doing. You're discussing with a stranger, details that are probably mostly lies. Really, how interesting is that.
Give your husband the choice, work on the problem or split up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006):
I think it would be a problem if it ever loses any anonimity. If you are shareing personal details, or confiding in a chatter. Or if you chat with specific people and make arrangements to meet them on line at a certain time.
If these people ever cease to be anonymous, and you form an attachment to BigJohnny75, I think thats a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): I agree with KellyO. The intimacy is obviously there. I think as she said, you definitely need to sort this out with your husband. If in the end, nothing good still comes out of it, then you of course, have the choice to go your separate ways or stay. Staying mind you will cause you further frustration and unhappiness, and this might rub off onto your children as time goes on.
I know that sometimes, people are just way too stubborn or way too passive to change for the greater good and the better connection due to various factors. However, if things don't go the good way, and even if your children are involved, it wouldn't emotionally healthy for you in the first place.
It's good to look out and take into consideration for your children - for sure, but even if your love for them know no bounds, your children should also understand eventually that sometimes crap happen within any sort of relationship, and a separation is better than staying together and be unhappy.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (5 December 2006):
 I feel it is cheating becos u are being intimate with other guys even if it is online. I know u might think this is innocent but it isnt. it can get out of hand especially if your online lovers want to meet with you and u have already become emotional and sexually attached. If u have problems in your marriage it is better to deal with things, and what u are doing will not help the situation but make things worse.Try go see a counsellor.
Goodluck
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 I would consider it to be cheating, would you have a problem if the tables were turned and your husband was the one talking dirty to other women?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): Yes, it is considered cheating. Why is the sex non-existent with your husband? Have you considered divorce? How old are you and what is your family situation? Kids, etc? Maybe it's not too late to make a new life for yourself.
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