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writes:hi my best guy friend and I have been fooling around, for example he will feel my boobs and i am going to give him a hand jobit is just fun between the two of usmy questions are1) how much do you think i mean to him?2) is he cheating on his girlfriend?please help i dont know, i feel awful for his girlfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Well you said he is your best guy friend so I suppose he considers you a friend as well. If he was your friend for a while before you started fooling around I wouldn't worry about how he feels about you. He may have always wanted to have you as his girl friend but only now things have moved to a different level between the two of you. Tell him you feel uncomfortable about his current girl friend and that if you and he want things to progress sexually to make a choice. Make sure he ends it with the other girl first.Cheating? Only if he promised to be exclusive with her. Promises are not implied. Cheating is when you have made a serious commitment like engagement or marriage and you break your promise, otherwise it is just part of dating.
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reader, georgia_rain20  +, writes (18 December 2008):
ok first of all YA thats cheating...duh...and second do you really think a guy thats all over you when he still has a gf really has feelings like that for you ...uh ya im gonna have to say NO...if he really had feelings for you he would be with you and not another girl and messing around with you behind her back...sorry but thats the cold hard truth...take it or leave it
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): In all honesty, its hard to tell his feelings for you based on what you mentioned, because it all comes down to whether or not he treats you in a way that suggests he is using you. For example, if he only calls you to meet up for this 'fun,' and then you dont hear from him for a while.. or he actually calls you and talks to you as a person that he really does want to get to know.
I think that whole basis of cheating, is that you do it behind someones back, thus cheating their loyalty and the relationship that you have. So based on what you said, it could be seen that the guy is cheating on her girlfriend, because she is unaware of what is going on behind her back. Its not really fair on the girl for it to continue, because imagine if the tables were turned and your boyfriend had decided to have some fun of his own? You would be devastated.
Id suggest you ask the guy what is going on, and how he feels for you before you go any further with him, because if he decides that he doesnt actually want to be with you, you will have the empty feeling of feeling used, and also the knowledge of what you did with him while he had a girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): For the first question I don't know, he probably does care about you but if he wants to go further he shud leave his girl first I know that sucks but that's better than him cheating on her or he probably doesn't care, just wants some action from another girl cuz he's not getting much from his girl and for the second question yes it would b considered cheating cuz he already has a girl and if he has to go to other girls to get any sexual action it's not right, fool around but nuthin sexual. I'll give an example. Might not be a good one but maybe it'll help. I have a friend that told me that she went to hang out with her friends at universal city walk, it was her; her best guy friend; another guy; and another girl, her best guy friend really liked her and they were fooling around (she already had a boyfriend). After a while they kissed she realized what she had done but it was too late. Her best guy friend wanted her and told her boyfriend that she kissed him. Her boyfriend got mad and left her. All this cuz they messed around and took it too far. Again it might not be a good example but I'm just trying to hlp
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Do you really? If you did, shouldn't you stop doing it?
What do you expect to read here? "Sure, it's fine. Knock yourself out". If you're looking for judgment then you better be ready to take it.
Just a thought...
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reader, ShanL +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Well question # 1 you can see that for yourself by the way he talks to you and things like that. You can also ask him how he feel about you and he should answer that question for you. Question #2 yes he really is because that's sexual contact with another woman and if the girlfriend isn't doing the same she don't deserve it, but if you feel bad that's punishment enpugh on your end now you just have to stop doing it before she catches you two or find out and then it's going to be hell to pay for the both of you.
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