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writes:is being friends with benifits ok?...this guy at my skewl wants to be more than friends but he doesn't want a relationship...i really like him but i'm afraid i'm gunna get hurt...like if he finds sumone he wants to be with and just forgets about me!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): Women tend to be more feeling based creatures so knowing the power of physical intimacy creates a bond and promotes trust and love for another-is it safe to say that using sex for the feel of it would greatly complicate your emotional well being as well as mental health?
You could tell yourself it is just sex, it is just sex, it is just sex...and believe you prepared yourself for just sex...but when you allow another to touch you and create those feelings... somewhere alone the line, things change and blur and confusion enters and it isn't just sex anymore.
I just noted your age...
Okay I'm in Mom mode now...No. You deserve more than being some body for a boy to use for his enjoyment.
You deserve, like any other woman or man, to be loved and respected and the best way to ensure this is going to happen to you is to wait til you are an adult and have put on years of experience in the emotional arena before hitting the bedroom arena.
Age and grow in wisdom so when you make the choice to have sex...it is something you want and want with someone who will help you love yourself, respect yourself and make you happy.
Take care kiddo.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (10 February 2007):
 Trust me when I tell you that girls always get more attached in these situations than boys. You'll go a few weeks and then you'll start to have feelings for him and he won't have them for you and you'll be heading non stop for heartache. Wait until you find someone who wants a relationship with you. You deserve that.
CD
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reader, AskEve +, writes (10 February 2007):
 Friends with benefits is NEVER a good idea. Once sex comes into the equation someone always gets hurt. Have more respect for yourself and don't just "give" yourself to people so easily.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): My friend had a situation similar to yours except her ex-boyfriend was the one asking to be friends with benefits. Unforunately for her, he ended up just using her and making her feel worse than she ever felt before and she was hurt even more than before. From both me and my friends experience with the whole entire friends with benefits, it never ends well. It seems great at first because you are getting a guy's attention and it feels great to have someone there and it's almost like having a boyfriend, but in the end, you are just going to get hurt in the long run especially since it seems like you really like him. I know it's going to be hard, but you are going to have to refuse his offer to prevent yourself from getting hurt. Either way, he might forget about you, but at least this way, you'll be better off. Good luck with everything. Hope everything works out.
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