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writes:I would like some help with something here, I've been with my girlfriend for a while now and I have noticed that even though I am the one to start things, she seems to be the dominant one (not sexually mind you) my question is does being emotionally submissive a problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): I agree with Twist of Fate, in my relationship I have been very submissive and exposed my emotions to my partner.
She has resented me for showing how i feel all the time. Girls like guys to be mysterious and want a challenge. If you show too much emotion then they start seeing you as clingy or needy. It is strange how things work. The more emotion i show, the further away we become. Maybe its just the girl i am with? I'm not sure, just keep it under control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontwist of fate, while I appreciate your input, I can't help but feel that you're thinking only women should be allowed to show how they feel, I was raised to show my emotions and to not keep them inside
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Twist of Fate
Honestly!!! How can you say that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): "Women like to know mens feelings to manipulate them if necessary"
Be very carefull with biased advice. Women are all different and it's slanderous to judge us all and label us as manipulative mind destroyers...... Follow this advice, and you'll find yourself walled up behind the wall that he suggest you build.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontwist of fate....are you saying I shouldn't be open to her? That if I show her my feelings she'll destroy me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Being emotionally submissive can cause a problem, due the inbalance of power in the relationship. You have to feel very secure in yourself and have high esteem to carry out this role. If it feels natural and right to you, then of course there is nothing wrong with it. But if this is something that has become a habit that you have both slipped into, or if you feel resentfull and not listened to, then you probably have a good talk with her about changing the way your relationship works.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 June 2008):
 If you are comfortable with that role in your relationship then there is no problem. But if you feel she is being too controlling then you will have to sit down with her and have a talk about each of your own expectations as far as roles go. Communication, communication, communication.
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