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writes:Ive been single for an year and a half now after a 5 1/2 year realtionship which i had to run away from because of domestic abuse. Im scared of being hurt again like that and this is why im asking for some advice im 22 this guy likes me and i like him but im worried beacuse hes only 17 but we get on amazingly. Im worried if age will make it impossible. So is age just a number? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): 5 years is not a big deal. If you believe he is mature enough for a relationship, go for it. :]
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (29 July 2008):
 A lot depends on his maturity level. Some men are ready for a serious relationship at 17. Most boys are not. You have to be the judge as to which category your guy falls into. And be honest with yourself. They say love is blind, but this time you can't afford to be blinded. You have to assess the prospects honestly.
Whatever your decision on that score, I'd be VERY skittish about making anything like a permanent commitment to this guy for the next few years. If he still seems to be the same guy at 19 or 20 that he is at 17, then you can pretty well conclude that he's mature. If he changes dramatically, then the relationship probably won't last anyway.
So no, age will not make it impossible by itself. It's the whole question of the relative levels of maturity of the two of you that could make the difference. If those two things match up, then age really IS just a number.
For the time being, if you think the maturity factor is there why not give it a chance?
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reader, TheHelpfullone +, writes (29 July 2008):
 Within reason yes age is just a number.
Every person has a different personality and level of maturity, so although he is 17 he could be mentally more mature than other people your age so it would not be a problem.
An example is a very good friend of mine is 38 he is married to a lady a lot older than him, she is 54 or 55 I cant remember exact age, but there is quite a difference there and they have been happily married for 5 years, if you met the pair of them you would think he was the older of the 2 lol.. Age never made a difference with them so I believe other people can find happiness with an age gap also.
I hope i have been some help
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