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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My ex and I have been on and off in our relationship for the last 5 years. I met him when he was 19 and I was 26 and despite the age difference we were instantly attracted to each other and have been friends and lovers ever since. Lately there has been a lot of bickering and unhappiness between us mostly due to the fact that I could sense that he was unsure about his commitment to our relationship. Although I know he loves me and cares for me, he is neither mature enough or even interested in settling down - which I can appreciate given his age. Recently he decided to end the relationship, stating that he needs to learn how to look after himself for a while and wants also to experience an intimate relationship other than the one we share. He fears that he will regret his lack of experience in the future if he doesn't do this now. While we both agree he can't promise anything, he has admitted that he sees us reuniting eventually. In the scheme of our lives together, is a few years apart such a big deal? Or am I being foolish to even hope that he'll come back to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 March 2010):
Move on. This has been an on/off relationship for 5 years, so it's not really committed anyway. He's not ready to settle. You seem to be. If he was the one, and really loved you, then you would both be together. Move on, before you find that you've wasted years waiting for a guy who isn't that into you.
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