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writes:I'm an 18 year old girl. I broke up with my boyfriend nearly 6 weeks ago and I'm going on a date with another guy in a few days. Is that too soon/tacky to go on a date with a new guy?Also, how far is too far on a first date? I've met this guy once before at a party and we've been chatting for a few months - is making out ok, or tacky? Obviously anything sexual is too far, but what about neck/ear kisses/love bites?Thanks.
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (1 September 2013):
 You broke up with your ex so if you feel ready to move on then it's not too soon.
As to how far you go? That's up to you.
If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it.
Your body is a private and personal thing and should be shared only when you're ready and you have got to know and trust the person you are allowing to share it.
I'm not just talking about sex I'm talking about making out too.
You're young and single, dating should be fun and exciting so have a good time and be safe.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (1 September 2013):
 According to the "Guy Book of how to Handle things" it is OK to date within 6 MINUTES of breaking up with a girl. I guess this probably also applies in the reverse (sex roles).
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2013): If you're only 18, that's a period in our young lives when dating is mostly for fun, and you're experimenting with trial relationships.
At your age, it is okay to date; as long as you let the new guy know you just ended a relationship and don't want to start a new one yet. Don't go looking for a replacement for your ex. That's the wrong mindset.
You should be in it for the fun, and as a distraction. To boost your self-esteem, and to remind you that moving on is okay.
Your feelings are raw right now; so you may not be in the proper state of mind for handling boys. You'll temporarily feel better; but not as good as you felt before the breakup.
You have to be in control of your emotions, in order to keep a guy in his place. He has to show you respect.
Right now, you may be feeling a little less yourself.
Thinking you need someone to make you feel wanted and attractive. You might be feeling a little spiteful, and want to hurt your ex's feelings.
I think you need to give yourself more time. I think you're in a hurry to get over feelings you don't like, and think going out with his replacement will make you feel better.
You may want to; because he is seeing someone else.
A date will take your mind off your ex for awhile; but it might also make you clingy and needy. You may like him today, in a week you'll miss your ex. The new guy will feel hurt about it.
You may think you're over your ex; but you just may be feeling numb. That's normal. The hurt will comeback when you least expect those feelings.
Even though you may be turned on by him; you should delay having sex. Making-out should not be too intense. Clothes on, and mostly kissing.
ABSOLUTELY NO DRUGS OR ALCOHOL BEFORE MAKING OUT! NONE!
You will give in too easily; then feel bad afterwards. You will go too far, while he may just be in it for the sex. Then you'll feel worse than you felt before.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 September 2013):
 I think it depends on a few things. 1. how long were you with your ex? 2. How serious were you with your ex? 3. Is the new guy the reason you broke up with him? 4. DO you FEEL like you are OVER your ex?
This new guy is someone you met ONCE at a party and after that you have been texting for a few months? So while you were with your ex, am I right?
I would go slow and actually TAKE the time to get to know him (and yea, not through texting but through doing things together and spending time face-to-face.
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