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writes:My fiance in the military of almost 2 years broke up with me out of the blue but after the break up I didn't contact him for a month, then I initiated the first contact he replied to my outmost belief quickly when we talk he talks about the future and he always says he loves me but has never talked about getting back together. My question is my ex fiance playing games with me I'm so confused.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 January 2009):
Yep, he sounds like he doesn't know what he wants so he's messing you about rather than getting some balls and making a decision one way or the other.
If I were you I'd remember how much he hurt me when he just split up and then use that to cut contact again.
Any guy that strings you along like this may want you, they may even see you as a long term marriage prospect (the settling down, mummy type) but he clearly doesn't care about your feelings or wellbeing.
Cut contact again, tell him to come back if he wants you back but if not then to go away.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Your question is a bit vague. What was his reason for breaking up with you in the first place? He may be keeping you close as a sort of "back up" just in case he decides he doesn't like what else the world has to offer. Don't be his doormat. Move on if this relationship does not meet your needs. He may also be confused as well, though, and trying to take his time to think about where he wants his relationship with you to go. He may tell you he loves you because he wants you to know that he is considering it, but doesn't talk about the future because he is unsure if he wants one with you or not. Follow his lead and see what moves he makes. If he continues keeping you at a distance and won't open up to you or bring you any closer, move on. You can do better than that. But if you let him take the lead he may take the initiative to tell you his feelings on the whole matter, which means he does care for you and he may be worth pursuing a bit. Either way, don't let yourself get duped. You know the situation better than anyone. If you feel he is toying with you, don't stand for it. Move on to bigger and better things. No one deserves to be toyed with. I wish I could be more of a help to you. Best of luck, my dear!
Always,
RJGirl
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