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writes:My birthday is coming up in the next month, my BF is fairly new (4-5 mos) and he hasn't met my kids. I'm waiting to see if this blooms into something serious. I'd like to invite him to my home for my birthday dinner with the kids since he's now a part of my life. Should I hold off to introduce them to him later down the road or is it ok to invite him over just for birthday cake? What's appropriate? I don't want him to feel excluded but I don't want to rush things since he doesn't have kids and it might scare him away (the kids are great, that's not the issue). Reply to this Question
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 You haven't said how old your kids are. That's a rather important detail. I'm guessing from your age that they're teenagers?
One of the things I stress often here is the danger to children of being exposed to a single parent's serial relationships. That's more of an issue with younger kids, and more of a criticism of parents who bring every date home.
If your kids are older, having a guy you've been seeing for several months around for cake is perfectly fine. Dinner might be a bit much for a first meeting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): He may very well be waiting for you to introduce him to your kids. 4-5 months seems like good timing. He might see you in a new light, as a "mom" rather than a "girlfriend" so he might be a little nervous. But you sound like good mom, so I wouldn't worry about it.
Too many women rush into springing their kids on a guy. You seem pretty level headed and don't have that problem. I think you should go ahead and introduce your family to him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 I think the best thing that you can do here is sit down with him and talk to him and see what he thinks. Tell him about your plans and ask him if he is ready to meet the children. Ok so you both havent been going out that long but that doesnt mean that he cant call around for some cake, you can just tell your children that he is a friend, am sure they wont take much notice. Goodluck.
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