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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hello everyone! im seeing someone, have been for a few months now, we are exclusive but not official and because of circumstance have decided its unmanageable to make a proper commitment to each other. i really really like him, but the trouble is it's the first time ive even come close to having a relationship, and im still kind of learning the ropes and have been a tad neurotic, accusatory and needy lately! ive only just realised my mistakes now that ive gone away for a few weeks, and i'm worried that when i go back he will tell me it's over.. i guess what i;m wondering is how much is too much when we're not official.. do you think if my neediness was starting to bother him that much he would at least talk to me about it first in order to save the relationship? or because it's not official do you think he wouldn't bother that much? Reply to this Question
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (24 March 2011):
Relationship status are so subjective that I don't reckon there will be much difference. I mean, he could be bothered or not. He could be bothered even if you were official. I don't think the status of your relationship will make a difference. It's a matter of how does your (not-official)boyfriend deal with you neediness.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 Well if you are both not official then been needy is going to make him distant from you. The best way that you can be is to show him that you care for him, but also show him that you have a life outside of him and that you dont need him in order to be happy. The best way is to always leave a guy wanting more, as they enjoy a chase and this keeps them interested.
If you are worried, then talk to him tell him you realise the mistakes you have made recently and that you are unsure what came over you but that you will stop being needy and accusing him of things and instead show him the real you. I hope it is not to late. Goodluck.
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