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writes:Hi there, I have a bit of a big dilemma. This is more about a career thing, but i've came here for a lot of problems before and have received so much help. I'm not sure where else to go in such short notice. I hope you can help me! I am currently working at an internship 4 days a week. I am also trying to hold down a part-time job, two days a week although currently they are pressuring me into working over my contract and i'm not getting much time off at all – although typically one day a week. I enjoy my part-time job and it is very good money, work and people. I have worked there for 3 years. My internship has asked me to quit my job, work full-time with them and they will pay me the wage I would have gotten from my part-time job. Sounds great, but the internship is only for the next 7 weeks. Afterwards, they cannot promise me any work, although if there is some available they could give me it (assuming the rest of my internship goes smoothly and I continue to impress). They said they will always be doing something that could require my skills in the future. Although they also already have a fully hired person who could do those tasks as well, who has been teaching me. They seem like very genuine people and want to give my career a kick start, but i'm worried about quitting and not getting an income. I could lower my part-time job contract and only work a few hours during the weekend, but the internship would have paid for me to stop working, but keeping the job would mean I had some safety net. I'd be a little afraid that i'd be tired from doing all the jobs all the time. The position i am interning for is very desirable and is where i would like my career to be. It's a very difficult position to get into and my internship will help me achieve it (although keeping the hours i am doing at the internship will still give me that push). My parents say I should go for it and trust the guy will give me work later and they can support me where they can if I don't get it. I've already said to the internship people that I will quit my part-time job and I handed in my notice today, but i'm afraid i've done the wrong thing! Can anyone give me some insight?! Have I did the right thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Hi there, I am the original poster. In reply to Rivi, they want me in on the extra day because i am playing an important role in my internship and i am responsible for a big part of production. It is a very small team and If i am not present on one day then their could be problems and it holds the rest of the team back from their days work. I am working on a test product that if it is successful could bring a lot for the company and they would need me and probably more people to bring it to a full product and could give me work for the next year or so. So it's uncertain if i will get work out of it if the product doesn't do as well as they hope/expect. Although they told me they would be working on other things anyway that could require my skills.
I don't think they are being unfair to me, it is a very difficult placement to get into and they are trying to give me a very good start in it.
I've already said to the internship boss that i would quit my part-time job, i fear i could do some damage if i seem so very undecided.
In response to seriouslysimplegirl, i get the feeling that i just don't like the sudden change and quick decision required from me. I think i am afraid of the unknown and not knowing if i will get work later on or not. Although i have also recently got offered an interview for another part-time job, so i sort of feel i must have some value and i should be able to get another part-time job if i need to. but in the current financial climate it could be very difficult.
Thank you for your replies and support!
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reader, rivi  +, writes (1 August 2010):
You are already doing 4 days a week at the Internship - that is almost full time.
Why does it matter to them SO much for you to work the extra day for the next 7 weeks? I feel they are being unfair to put so much pressure on you to quit your long term part time job which you enjoy .
If they are being unfair in this respect then honestly I suspect there is little likelihood of a proper salaried position coming thru at the end of the 7 weeks.
I hope I'm wrong but I don't trust them.
Plus I suspect they would respect you more if you said ' On mature reflexion I appreciate the offer but I cannot take that financial risk of giving up my present permanent PAID job in exchange for no more than 7 weeks work. If you made it 6 months or -pref- a year I would be prepared to take that risk. '
If they really really want you refusing to accept their very poor bargain should not put them off you.
Your parents being able to support you financially is a distraction from the real issue : do they respect you or are they just taking advantage ?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 August 2010):
 Yes you have done the right thing. You have nothing to worry about since you have your parents support if everything goes pear shaped.
Good luck doll.
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reader, seriouslysimplegirl +, writes (1 August 2010):
My advice to you is: listen to your gut, it's trying to tell you something. There are two types of fear: healthy and unhealthy. Healthy fear will protect you when you're in danger. Unhealthy fear will hold you back and keep you from growing. Do you feel as though you/your future are in danger by doing only the internship? Or are you afraid of doing only the internship because it's unfamiliar to you, like the great unknown? Listen from within... you'll do great!
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